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Sorry for starting so many threads, but I'm really having a difficult time. Sometimes I'm just done and accept the fact that she destroyed our family and I need to move on, then sometimes I'm super overwhelmed with strong emotions. Case in point, I just picked up our (actually biologically just hers) youngest from her friend's house. As we were leaving her friend yelled "I'm going to miss you!" And my step-daughter (hate using that word "step" since I've known her since she was 1) replied back in a sad voice "I'm going to miss you too."
I asked her what that was about and apparently, my wife talked to her this morning and told her that when mommy finds a new place, she will have to change her school to one closer where she/they are going to live. Granted all our daughters know (since the others are older) that things aren't right at home and they've already been told by my wife last month that they will eventually move. They were upset for over a week when my wife first broke the news to them. This just brought back sad feelings to the youngest. She told me she doesn't want to change schools, doesn't want to move and doesn't want things between us to change. After a few minutes she then told me that her mother said our separation was a mutual decision. What a bunch of bullshit! She made it seem that we BOTH wanted out and not that just my wife is the one that is 100% responsible for this destruction of our once happy family. I didn't feel it was fair to the child for me to tell her it is only mommy that wants to separate.
I am so upset, but being who I am, I kept my cool and just reassured her that things will find a way to work themselves out one way or another. Sometimes I wish I was just an uncaring a$$hole and not care about all this crap, but it really just hurts and saddens me. How can my wife be so selfish and not care about the lives that she's ruining with her selfishness?
She's destroying not only the family, but the well being of everyone involved.
Sorry again, but I'm just so sad and very upset.
I asked her what that was about and apparently, my wife talked to her this morning and told her that when mommy finds a new place, she will have to change her school to one closer where she/they are going to live. Granted all our daughters know (since the others are older) that things aren't right at home and they've already been told by my wife last month that they will eventually move. They were upset for over a week when my wife first broke the news to them. This just brought back sad feelings to the youngest. She told me she doesn't want to change schools, doesn't want to move and doesn't want things between us to change. After a few minutes she then told me that her mother said our separation was a mutual decision. What a bunch of bullshit! She made it seem that we BOTH wanted out and not that just my wife is the one that is 100% responsible for this destruction of our once happy family. I didn't feel it was fair to the child for me to tell her it is only mommy that wants to separate.
I am so upset, but being who I am, I kept my cool and just reassured her that things will find a way to work themselves out one way or another. Sometimes I wish I was just an uncaring a$$hole and not care about all this crap, but it really just hurts and saddens me. How can my wife be so selfish and not care about the lives that she's ruining with her selfishness?
She's destroying not only the family, but the well being of everyone involved.
Sorry again, but I'm just so sad and very upset.
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You have good reason to feel upset.....Have you talked to her about these changes just so you know whats going on? I can see you care very much for are they both girls? I think you said two...Try to keep your head up.....HUGS
You don't deserve any of this.
It is amazing how our spouses switch to become completely different people on us
I would be careful that your words don't say one thing and your manner and actions say something entirely different. Children will always feel love and be protective of their mother and bitterness towards her in their presence will not have them react favorably to you.
I wish so much she were not putting you and your children through this. Sending you thoughts and prayers of strength and peace.
To know that you were once loved by this person and now you are a nobody to them is a killer. So, I can honestly say that I wish I didn't give a crap either.
She says very pleasantly, "Hi how was your day?" When she sees me after work. Watches TV, goes out to shop and is just living carefree.
WTF?!?! Don't you know your kids and husband are feeling the agony of your selfish decisions?
I've always been a happy go lucky, mellow, great sense of humor, very likable guy. So, please don't let all my negative posts make it seem like I'm a bitter and resentful person and THAT'S probably why she's leaving him. I've just started being this way last month when she dropped the bob on me.