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I will never understand

Rman
Rman
I figured out that I will probably never truly understand why my wife decided to end our marriage. Do I want to understand? Yes. Should I try to understand? No. I just think too much.
Rman
Rman
Z...section 5, page 13 of the DS guide, specifically states that you can't weak nab an old thread...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, I saw one once. They didn't speak to me, but they posted that they were smart, and I believed them.

Did you know your code name was Chris Farley?
Rman
Rman
TD, if they told you they were smart, then they were lying. Don't believe everything you see or hear on DS. Just look at my avi. I'm actually nothing like it...I smoke with my left hand...
patti22
patti22
I, on the other hand, am Exactly like my avi.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bastard! WTF else have you been lying about?

I actually LOOK like Neil Peart. Minus the hair, nose, eyes and ears. And knowing how to play the drums.
Rman
Rman
So, TD...you're saying that you're exactly like Peart?

Patti...please call me...please...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, minus all that stuff I mentioned.

I bet your name isn't Rman either is it.

I don't think I can take much more of this.
Rman
Rman
Actually Rman is my middle name. My real name is Rwoman.
deleted_user
deleted_user
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deleted_user
deleted_user
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deleted_user
deleted_user
Man you have more issues than I thought.

I can't help you. You need to seek the real Neil Peart.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband wanting a divorce came as a shock to me. When I asked for the reasons why, of course everything was what I was not doing or what I was doing too much. I am trying my best to let all of that go because that is what he wants, for me to feel guilty when in fact he let himself become emotionally involved with another woman. He wants to put the guilt on me to make himself feel better and I will NOT give him that satisfaction.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can never understand.

The person who leaves often re-writes history. And, possibly the person left behind does as well to some degree. With this, the truth gets lost.

Let it all go.