Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Why did you say you wanted to get back together? why would you play games with me? why would you lie when we dated for five years, got engaged, broke up, got back together after a year and a half and stay with me for six months if you wanted to be dating other girls? why did you lie to my face when I asked you point blank if you wanted to do this and say yes? Why would you cheat on me when you know how much it hurts? Why would you lie so many times and say you wanted this!!?? why not just tell me the truth? Yeah it hurts but it came out anyway and now I'm hurt from you lying and not wanting to be with you! Why would you take me back? I was doing better, now you've set me backwards in my healing process. I have to start all over.
Sorry, I wanted to vent. I want to ask him these questions but I probably never will... I probably shouldn't. He probably wouldn't answer anyway. I hate not having the answers. Did he want to be with me at all? Why waste my and his time. Uhh so mad, hurt, confused.
Sorry, I wanted to vent. I want to ask him these questions but I probably never will... I probably shouldn't. He probably wouldn't answer anyway. I hate not having the answers. Did he want to be with me at all? Why waste my and his time. Uhh so mad, hurt, confused.
His answer will probably change over time
But none will really satisfy you
I like sja's comment: closure comes from inside you. Yes, I think that is true. Something for me to work on for a while.
Don't ever accept being treated like shit. No one deserves that.
I don't know how you cope; sometimes I use anger. I guess the healthier way is to work towards indifference. But for now I want to hate a little bit.
Best wishes.
"How could he string me along for six months!"
I don't know but I guess he is not the person you imagine him to be? Neither is my soon-to-be-ex-wife. Hard to cope with, hard to accept. But yeah, I try to focus on that - she is not who I thought she was (she changed). I don't like the "new" her.
I don't know all your circumstances, but you mention your man has cheated on you. And lied about it. In my book that's the end-all be-all. Trust is gone. No one who loved you the way you DESERVE to be loved would ever do that. I think you have to move on, as painful as it is.
Be strong.