Was it a lie? The entire 10 years.  Why did he wait until after buying a house and two rounds of IVF resulting in one miscarriage and none of the seven embryos fertilizing to start acting different.  Could it be the loss or was this always him.  After our miscarriage, I through myself into work and school and he started becoming distant. Eventually I caught him with not one but two women. All the while he was telling me he just needed space to clear his head.  Friends, Family and a therapist told me that people grieve differently and to give him space. I never understood why or how he could just leave during this period of mourning and mistrust. How could he betray me after the 1st woman. I did not find out about the second woman until last week. She was driving our car with 3 small kids in the back all under 3 years old. She told me that my husband was her boyfriend of 2 months can you imagine the devastation. Here I am at home praying for my husband, my marriage and reconciliation and he was playing house with someone else. Fastforward to day before yesterday. One of my friends stumbled across a facebook page that consisted of pictures of him and her on recent vacations and family outings while I was at home praying and working two jobs because he left me with the  bills.  He kept telling me he just needed some time. I believed him because he has been through a lot of grief. His only living relatives are his two sisters, an aunt and two cousins. My family took him in. When confronted he finally said he wanted a divorce and he was meeting me to sign the papers now. I talked to his mistress and he has been lying to her about the smallest and biggest things. It is all lies. I couldnt take the hurt and betrayal any more so I just signed the papers. He was my best friend. People say I gave up to easy. I shouldn't have signed the papers. The blatant disrespect has me so sick especially because it came out of nowhere. I don't know how to get through this hurt. All I'm doing is working and crying. I barely sleep. I have lost 32 pounds in 60 days. I have not eaten a full meal since early May. I can't sleep and my heart is hurting.  I don't understand why and how he could do this me. When we were completing the paperwork. He was on the phone with her the entire time, texting and calling as if I was the mistress. Trying to prove to her that he is behaving. I can't believe this at all. We just bought our house, we were planning a family. What makes someone do this? Why?