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I’m dying

Underland
Underland

Last week my husband of almost 2 years suddenly brought up divorce and I found out he was cheating. I took his phone and tried to lock myself up(I should have went somewhere else) and he has been meeting this woman and doing.."acts" together. He was trying to leave me for her.... he found out shortly I had the phone and came after me. Things got violent, he went to jail, then released to military chain of command. I wasn't able to keep the phone and he shattered it in front of me... I'm so confused and hurt... and I'm feeling too much it's overwhelming

MemphisWH
MemphisWH
You must be hurting pretty bad,

Take count in the fact that the lie he was feeding you is over, and you now need to focus on yourself and heal.

He disrespected you and your relationship, be glad you did not get and STDs.

The marriage if it would have stayed would have been hell for so much longer.

You dont have to live that way any longer.

Take time to heal yourself, you are going to hurt for a while, do the hard work of allowing yourself the freedom to feel the pain of the loss.


Dont hold your pain inside, allow it out. tell everyone until you can talk about it anymore.

write letters to yourself about it.

you will heal yourself and be a better person in the future and know the type of life you want to live.
Lavender80
Lavender80
I'm sorry you're going thru this. You have the cheating to deal with, the violence, the embarrassment, the betrayal...so many emotions.

Take one day at a time, and make decisions that will put your needs and best interest first.

Sending you light and love!
Underland
Underland
I can’t cope
Underland
Underland
I could end it right now...
Alonedadof2
Alonedadof2
Noones life is more important than your own. This person never deserved you. As much pain as your in you will get through this. Keep posting and get everything out.
stillstanding
stillstanding
Those feelings can be intense. No matter what lifestyle change you feel like you need.....those feelings are still there. We have to face them, theres no way around them.

What can you do to deal with those feelings though? I suggest journal'ism/'ing.

DS offers Journals here. I've been using them since '07. I still have feelings but I have an outlet for them.

I'll keep checking in to see your update.
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Seek others family and friends to sit with you and allow you time to mourn and heal.

Keep posting and writing about it, it will help you and others.