I'm sorry if your wife, or some other partner you have had in your life, held you against some former mistakes they made, but that simply isn't the point of my reply.

SBJ - I know, right?

Christ, 4 years....mostly ONE time dates that ended with dinner and me saying, "Yeah...so, um...gotta go"..

I think Blind assumes all these "dates" include sex.

When I mentioned I met this guy I'm currently seeing, through a friend, and was excited, his reply was, "No sex on the first date."

Blind already has me pegged as a whore evidently lol

And don't get me started on how mad he was when I said my dog dying was harder for me then dealing with the affair my former H had five years ago.

"I didn't say anything about holding former partners against new people... "

Neither did I, although I understand where you got confused. It was where I used the word 'former".

To be clear, I simply am pointing out that it's YOUR fault that you had sex with someone.....no matter what you expected their intentions to be. This is a simple fact of life.....something that Daddy's tell their teen girls.

BLIND...LET ME MAKE THIS CLEAR. I NEVER SAID I HAD SEX WITH ANYONE. I SAID A LOT OF PEOPLE ACT LIKE THEY WANT A RELATIONSHIP THEN IT BECOMES CLEAR IT'S ALL ABOUT SEX.

AT WHAT POINT DID I SAY I HAD SEX WITH ANYONE?

Was that loud and clear enough for you?

Christ Almighty.

Whoa whoa whoa...what was that Daddy tells their teens slam?

OK, boo...here's YOUR problem. Your wifey screwed around, got a little something from someone besides you, and I think now you have a low opinion of women. You seem to have a real issue with dating, as you conveniently pop up when someone has something to say on the topic.

My daddy (and I RESENT you trying to bring up MY father) did goddam well teaching his daughter.

Did your father in law do the same?

"I think the biggest thing is the sex. People saying exactly what they think you want to hear, but it all boils down to if you will have sex with them or not.
"you would be amazed at how "nice" and "sweet" people look...and then it's all sex, sex, sex"

No need to yell, I read the above.....and I fully interpret it as a general statement....and not necessarily your experience.

However, due to the fact that it's quite childlike advise.....I thought you might have an ax to grind.

Seriously, what adult doesn't know this?

To be clear, I simply am pointing out that it's YOUR fault that you had sex with someone.....no matter what you expected their intentions to be. This is a simple fact of life.....something that Daddy's tell their teen girls.

That's what you said. You even capitalized YOUR...so, what about that general statement?

Seriously, why do you have such an issue with my posts? I mean, your passive aggressive slams with "something Daddy's teach their teens" and your "what adult doesn't know this"...lessen the sometimes intelligent responses you are capable of sharing, at times.

It's interesting, considering your situation, that these posts trigger you.

Interesting, indeed.

Your can mean ONE'S, but let's not get off point over semantics.

You were discussing how men lie to get sex basically.
I was saying....duh.....it's not his fault that YOU or ANYONE had sex with him. This is grade school stuff....c'mon TTMI.

Ok Blind, I don't have the energy for your bullshit tonight. You know everything, you're a God, blah blah blah. *stroking Blind's ego because he so badly needs it*

Peace.

Blindside, did someone accuse you of pushing them to far. Honestly, it sounds like you are defending your own actions and TTMI is hitting on a hot button.

Ok, I hope you guys are done going back and forth on this subject, this is supposed to be a support group.......... even though I have been on that end to where I posted something last year and was really hurt because I got bashed by something I said that someone didn't like for their own personal reasons.
We need to remember that everything is all about perception and that everyone perceives things in their own way based upon their experiences.

TTMI I know what you mean by people seeming to just want sex and that is why they are on those sites, maybe not everyone is on there for that reason but it sure does feel that way. I tried the sites before but I just can't do it anymore, people never seem to be who they portray they are, I think they like to put on their profiles who they would like to be, or how they think they are, but in the end, its not that way.....again, its all individual perception!

To the OP, I'm sorry I participated in hijacking your post.

To whipple and seashell: Thanks guys :)

To the people who messaged me with support: You know I love you guys.

I don't come here to turn a support group into a zoo so, again, sorry about that.

I put him on ignore...it's all good :)

Now, back to the original post.,.

The fish site is scary. One needs to be solid in their mindset to visit there, as it IS a meat market.

If we project contentedness and self confidence..... people will be drawn to us.

If we project neediness, a fixer and future codependent will be drawn to us.

We tend to want people to make us feel better/complete. How can we add value to someone else's life?

doornob, your requirement list is very small.....(must have kids and religious). There are some religious people with kids that have various unacceptable issues....something you likely don't want.
If you fine tune that list, perhaps you can employ a strategy to meet your future mate.