TELL ME ABOUT IT!!!!!!!

Patti...because of the food chain in my area I end up driving an hour or an hour and a half just to meet people. There is NO ONE...Litterly NO ONE that is datable in my local area.

I have hard times meeting new people so it is just a pain in the ass.

I have had several dates (about 10 different people). Had a few second dates, even one third date. The people that I had the second and third date with weren't interested in me. A few of the people that I had one date with I met on-line on a dating site and they blatently lied on their profile. That is why I say one and out if they don't click.

You are not shallow and i think it's great that you have high standards for yourself! Why shouldn't you? You deserve to be happy with your life and your partner.
I totally agree in not wasting time/$$ with something that's not working. I'm a good example of someone that should have left years ago, but look at me now! I feel like crap because i wasted precious time with someone that was very wrong for me..... to make a long story short: don't settle for crap like i did.

There's no one that's worth anything in my area either.....

Someone asked about internet dating websites. I met my STBXH on match.com. That should say something.

Dating is a little nerveracking amongst other things. The worse part for me is the not trusting them to easily part. Gotta thank the ex for it i guess.

Seriously...I know exactly how I am and if someone isn't certain ways then we will never work out. I have a strong personality in some areas and I am very willing to give in others.

I have met some women that were nice people. They were interested in me. One of them turned out to be crazy and after one date said that she was glad to have me in her life. Then she would call me all the time with these dramatic events in her life. NO WAY.....Sorry, but I have enough drama at work, I don't want it at home and if someone is calling me up all of the time and telling me about this insignifigant road rage incident that they had it is too much. I am not saying that I won't support someone, but come on...not every little things is worth all of that drama.

Another girl...I met her on line and she was nice. When I met her I was not attracted to her at all. She also would have been unable to be as active as I am and as most people on here know she would never work out for me because I am always active and on my boat. If someone has a hard time walking they will never be able to take the 15 degree heel or better of my boat when it is sailing. Sorry, no can do there.

I don't care what she does for a living, how much she makes, where she lives, what level her education is, and I am willing to try new activities as long as we have some things in common. Where I will not back down is that she has to be active, keep herself up, enjoy sailing or be willing to learn (as that is a huge part of my life), be positive and not overly dramatic, and have descent family values and morals.

Is that too much to ask?

Not too much at all. You know what you like and that's important. I'm positive there's someone out there for you. You're definitely not asking the impossible, and if anything, it all sounds reasonable to me. .

Out of curiosity, what have the women lied about?

And Heave, you can call them Women and not People, we are assuming that you're not dating both sexes....LOL.

Let's see.... The really nutty one said that she was laid off, which is cool. She later tells me that she was fired from work because she couldn't get along with her co-workers. There are many other things but I really don't feel like writing down a huge list.

To me, one lie is a huge thing. How are you going to trust someone if the whole meet-up starts on a small lie.

Yeah, that's a big one.

I guess it is bad that my view of dating is that it is a necessary means to an end!

dating is a complicated process, but we have to eventually let go of our past hurts and try. I recently started dating again and have found some really interesting individuals, but I just try to have fun. In the past two months, I have met two guys who were only looking to get laid (they didn't), one who was a serious clinger (not what I'm looking for) and one who really seems to be allright. I think I am still looking for waht is wrong with him though lol. There are good people out there you just have to perservere!

After my divorce, I was totally optimistic. How I feel about dating now, has nothing to do with anything from my marriage.

It's the 15 guys who stood me up without so much as a phone call and then days later told me all they really wanted was someone they could "f^@K and leave."

My experiences dating, is what makes me think dating isn't worth the hassle.

I hate dating too!