i dont really have any hate for him. im sad for him. hurt for him. but i dont hate him. hate is just another form of caring for him anyway isnt it? im pissed at the situation and i am angry and depressed. but hate? naaaa..... i dont even hate my brother or the men that raped me. it gives them too much power still.

but if this makes you feel better, i am glad. i hope others find it theraputic as well.

I hate that he lied to me. That he couldn't tell me the truth when I asked if their was another woman. I hate that no matter how hard I try I can't seem to move on.

Ilover, do you always ruin the party right away? Lol, I made it clear in the subject, this is all about letting out some hate, I hate being asked if I want instructions in English in America! Lol, come on folks, spill out some things you hate! Lol

I hate him for what he did to me but I do not hate him as a person and that is because I am still in love with him.
I hate that I will not see his son any time soon.
I hate that I did not see him, his son, or his family for Christmas
I hate that I feel the way I do.
I hate ex girlfriends from 23 years ago...lol
I hate that I am doing the whole no contact thing with him right now!

oh yeah
And I HATE that we all have to be here dealing with this stuff at Christmas time.

I hate that I got sucked in and fell for a guy who isn't capable of caring for anyone else.
I hate it hate it hate. I hate that I can't just turn my feelings off. I hate that I am stuck living 500 feet from him! I hate that he owes me money because I was stupid enough to lend it to him. I hate that I still have feelings for him that haven't turned to hate yet!

hmmm
I hate him for being a lying, cheating, snake
I hate him for convincing me 12 yrs ago that it would never happen again.
I hate him for wasting the last 12 years of my life and stealing my chance to ever have kids of my own.
I hate him for asking me to go with him to his mom's for Christmas because he was too cowardly to admit to his mom that he is the above mentioned lying, cheating, snake.
I hate him for asking me for a hug before he left on Christmas eve to go to his new girlfriends house.
I hate him for texting me Merry Christmas.
I hate him for texting me to ask how the dogs are doing.
I hate him for causing me this pain.
I hate him for making my future uncertain.
I hate him for making me feel sad and pathetic.
I hate him for telling me he plans to divorce a week before Christmas.
I. Hate. him.

whew! That felt good. I really love this thread!

I am the recipient of hate. My ex hated me for 38 years. She had the affairs, she is the one who told me she didn't love me and never had in our 10 year marriage. She is the one who tried 3 different times to stab me and achieved it once, she is the one who tried to shoot me but, the gun did not fire, she is the one who had a lover try to kill me and when I finally left, she hated me. For the next 38 years, she told lies on me, run me down in front of people, never said anything good to me, done all she could to turn our children against me. Then, this past July, she got cancer.
She was give 6 weeks to live. I went to her bedside in ICU, had prayer with her and for the first time in 38 years, she smiled at me and I again took the initiative and told her I was sorry. She shook her head at me and tears ran down her cheek and mine. 38 years of hate, had a healing that day. She took radiation and Chemo, spent 3 months in the hospital but, she is alive today.
I have only seen her once since she got out of the hospital but, she spoke and smiled. Hate basically destroyed her life and up until she was diagnosed with cancer, she was a bitter, unhappy, and sarcastic woman. Never have I ever hated her. If I really hate anything, I guess it would be that she hated for so long, that it robbed her of happiness.

(((OLDBIKER))))

Oldbiker, you sound like a great guy, I'll hate your woman for you on this thread, and talk therapy and happiness on another one lol. I hate the high taxes on cigs and beer, taxes in general I hate. And I hate that woman for lying to me every breath for 7 years! God I am having too much fun with this :)

I hate that I had to find out on Christmas day, via facebook, that he has joined a dating site

I hate that he was here yesterday for the kids and told me he loved me

I hate that tonight I texted him to tell him good night and I love you, and he texted back, thank you

I hate that I am losing my home, my marriage, etc. because he can't/won't climb out of the beer can

I hate that I hate him, because once, I loved him

I hate him because I love him still

I also hate government run anything, but like you said, that's a whole other thread...

I hate his "mother" for abandoning him as an infant and leaving him with an abusive and neglectful "father." Who knows who he could've been if he hadn't been shit on from the beginning?

I hate drugs and the way they have ruined our lives

I hate his decision to go back to the drugs

I hate that it's taken me 15 years together, 7 years married and an innocent baby for me to finally stand my ground with him

I hate his self loathing, self hate and self destruction because it doesn't just effect him

I hate my dad trying to force me to live up to his standards, even at 29 years old

I hate feeling like I wasted my best years on this drug addict who has never treated me the way he should've

I hate that I took it for so long, and that I can't even sit here now and say I'm 100% done

I hate how sweet, affectionate and attentive he's been this last week. It makes me scared, angry and confused. I enjoy it but I have no reason to believe that he's magically changed and this is the "real" him now

I hate that I put myself through school to go into a field, that while I love it, I can't support myself and my son on it.

I hate him for being a cheat and a thief
I hate him for pretending to be a person he is not
I hate that he is such a liar
I hate that he is a narcissist
I hate that he abused me
I hate that he is with another woman right now
I hate that he shows up with her at my favorite restaurant every weekend
I hate that he fooled me
I hate that I spent all those years wtih him
I hate that he has been seen with the other woman by all my friends starting two weeks after our divoce
I hate that he has no feelings
I hate that he is not remorseful
I hate that I still think of him and am still mad
I hate that he owes me so much money and is getting away with it
I hate that my dreams were killed
I hate that I don't have anyone yet, a year after my divorce
I hate that I have feelings for him
I hate that I still fantasize he will come back
I hate that I even think of the fantasy of him changing into someone he can never be
I hate that I even spend a second wishing that his present relationship is hell
I hate that she thinks she has one over me

while I am bran spanking new to the whole divorced life. I am trying very very hard to not hate a lot of things. But the few things that I think are un avoidable

I hate that he has no back bone
I hate that I trusted him
I hate that he only NOW has an interest in our 3 kidsdaily activities
I hate that after 8 years he never took the time to know me
and i most assuredly hate that I put up with all of it knowing my gut was screaming that it was all wrong, and my heart withering away, and my brain saying 'we can make it work' .

But on a lighter note I am thrilled to say in 5 days 2010 can kiss my a** goodbye. And 2011 will be filled with all the needed changes.

My wife hated me for having a good life with benifets and a good provider for her and her son.
My wife hates me for wanting to do drugs then spend time with me and her son
My wife hates me for wanting to go have smoking, drinking, single friends in her life.
My wife hates me for forgiving her that she cheated on me to say she would not do it again, but lied about it and talked to my Brother in law on her phone I bought for her.
My wife hates me for kicking her out of the house.
My wife hates me for just plain on loving her still after the fact my bro in law and her are shacked up, doing bad stuff
As you can tell its not the hate I have for her.. Believe me I have tons for her but I think she was the one that hated having everything and wanted to go back to her old ways,
my wife hate me mainly for me wanting her to have a better life.