Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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HeaveToo 02/16/2009

I really don't miss those long Honey-do lists that my ex use to leave for me. She would always do that to me and get shitty when the list wasn't done. A lot of stuff on the list would be things that she should have been doing because it was stuff that she was into, not me. These are things such as taking her foster cats to the vets (all of the time) and mucking out the stalls at a barn where she was supposed to be doing that job (I wasn't part of that deal).

What do you not miss?

deleted_user 02/16/2009

There are many things I don't miss and many I do miss! Can't wait for the day to loose the miss list completely.

The biggest thing I don't miss is that nothing was ever his fault. The blame was always on someone else. To this day it is my fault we are divorced yet it was he that left and he that cheated and he that would come back just to leave again. Again, it was always someone else's fault. He had a great life, better married than he had ever. Was it perfect, no. But someone else most likely was to blame for making him do the things he did. Not to say I am the perfect wife but all I can say if it were reversed and I was the husband to a wife like me I don't think I would have left! If I were allowed to go on Fishing trips, golf trips and do whatever I wanted when I wanted, why leave? Go figure.
I need to not miss everything about him! He really is not a good person and I need to recognize that.
Thanks for letting me share!

deleted_user 02/16/2009

I don't miss:

His snoring
His farting
His criticism of my efforts on everything from cleaning the toilets to washing the floors
His sarcastic comments
His superior attitude toward everyone he feels is beneath him, which is pretty much everyone
His doing a load of laundry but never actually taking it out of the dryer, folding it and putting it away
His spend, spend, spend ways

Okay, this could get unhealthy soon....
C

deleted_user 02/16/2009

I don't miss beign second all the time.

deleted_user 02/16/2009

I dont miss bringing home $96k and being told "not enough"!
I dont miss her telling me I didnt do enough after working 2 jobs sometimes 16 hours a day to help support her and her 3 kids!
I dont miss her having new leather jackets to match her car and I cant have winter work boots!
I need another drink.

deleted_user 02/16/2009

I wont miss him scratching his nasty ass athletesfoot. Ive been complaining about that for 13 years. Treat it already!!! I bought creams for you myself!!! He is a very clean person except for that and I find it so repulsive.

deleted_user 02/16/2009

i dont miss those 10 bounced checks a month--no lie-i dont miss going to 3 cash advances every 2 weeks to pay for those satannic loans..i did this for about 3 years straight..it sucked...i dont miss that flannel moomoo(spelled right?) that was so sexy...NOT..i dont miss kissing her butt for a week for 5 minutes of sex..DEFINITELY dont miss the witch mother in law or the molester father in law or the ex's sister who was too good to speak to me and still want speak to me at church to this day even tho i was very nice to her.i dont miss having a negative balance in our checking account..

deleted_user 02/17/2009

I dont miss being lied to. I dont miss being cheated on. I dont miss all the fighting. I dont miss not being able to live my life cause i had to supervise his. I dont miss the crazziness....so why the hell do i miss him again??

deleted_user 02/17/2009

yep, like many here, I don't miss being lied to - constantly, I don't miss having to be vigilant and alert to all the signs of cheating, I don't miss having to apologise for his arrogance (to store clerks and such), I don't miss being rejected and made to feel invisible..the beat goes on...lol

deleted_user 02/17/2009

I don't miss being emotionally and physically abused, I don't miss being his caregiver and never receiving any thanks, I don't miss all those doctor and out of state hospital trips to which he said it was my job to take care of him, I don't miss him being on computer talking to female "friends" or calling them long distance. I am so glad to be out of that situation and learning to love myself instead of loosing myself in someone that did not appreciate or love me.

deleted_user 02/17/2009

- I don't miss being treated like I didn't matter.Like anything was more interesting than I was.
- her being gone all the time, with little contact, not being allowed to even ask where she was.
- shitty holidays. Not worth the effort to her.
- The constant lies to my face.

I don't miss much about the last 15 months.

HeaveToo 02/17/2009

- I don't miss her housesitting.
- I don't miss getting yelled at
- I don't miss her throwing things at me or breaking my stuff
- I don't miss her hitting me (rare things though).

deleted_user 02/17/2009

I wont miss his annoying laugh, his cockiness, the way he tries to act just like his brother(whom I have never been able to stand) his ocd about stupid things like all the hangers in the closet being turned the same way in shirts, him stealing the covers at night. Petty things? maybe but I think I deserve to be a little petty after 13 years.

deleted_user 02/17/2009

His lies

deleted_user 02/17/2009

Having to iron his shirts by a certain time on Sundays. It would ruin his evening if I ironed those passed 5 pm. Not kidding either!

deleted_user 02/17/2009

I don't miss the snoring and the teeth grinding all through the night. He used to say that I moved around all night and did crazy things in my sleep, but I wake up and the right side of the bed is untouched. I don't think I move at all.

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