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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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bobbigurl 12/02/2009

My husband cheated on me with a mutual coworker. He was only seeing her for 2 weeks and wanted a divorce and moved out. That fast. We all worked for the same company so we all knew each other about 5yrs. I had a breakdown, left the state to try to move on, lost my beautiful career, came back home. It's been 2 1/2 years and at least I'm not at the bottom of a bottle anymore. Our divorce was final in March and he married her in May of this year. That fast. We were together 10yrs but he was 11 yrs younger than me.I rarely cry anymore and I stopped using this site for almost a year. The problem is when I sleep I dream that we are together so that when I wake up for a split second I felt the "nightmare" was all a dream but then I see I'm alone and the house is emplty & I come back to reality. Or I dream that he runs to me and begs for forgiveness and says he made such a mistake. It seems so real that when I wake up it justs ruins my whole day. I have to say a prayer now every night to God to beg him not to let me dream of him. I hate my dreams. I just wanted to write this down for ppl to see because I recently got back on here and see new members and I know I'm not alone and I hope reading this helps someone as it helped me "a little" in writing it.

deleted_user 12/03/2009

Big (((Hugs))) to you. I am sorry that you have such horrible dreams. I really hope that things get better for you.

deleted_user 12/03/2009

I still occasionally have dreams about my ex where he is here with me, and is the opposite of who he really was.
It is magical thinking on my part. He was never capable of loving me, but it was the He that I wanted him to be in my mind and hoped for.
I don't know how long the dreams will last. We spent a fair amount of time together and I loved him. I think it is all a part of healing, and until we have a new familiar, we may look at the old one with some amount of longing, because we aren't capable of seeing all the bad things they did to us, when we are asleep.
I feel for you. I can tell you that they are rare in my life today, and it is several years later. So I do have hope of them disappearing altogether, one day:-) Hugs, Kimmee

hurtinandhealin2560 12/03/2009

I remember in the beginning of my separation, those dreams would come and in them I was always screaming at my ex, begging for an explanation and he would always have his back to me and wouldn't speak.

Mercifully, they eventually end.

I hope they do for you. Hugs! Welcome back to DS.

deleted_user 12/03/2009

I hate those dreams too. Thankfully I no longer endure them, but the other night I was halfway awake and rolled over to put my arm around someone who wasn't there. That sucked. On the positive side, my kitty was right next to me. She's a bit smaller, but she's just as warm and very cuddly.

deleted_user 12/03/2009

In the last two weeks or so, I've been dreaming of my ex almost every night. I wake up with a headache in the morning, because I clench my teeth so hard (I wear a nightguard... pretty). I hope they stop for me as well. Sometimes the dreams wake me up. There's always turmoil in the dreams.

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