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Husband is moving out October 1st...

nicole7384
nicole7384
I'm a mess one second, I'm happy another, then the next I'm pissed off, then scared, depressed, and then happy again. My husband is moving into his own place in October. We are separating, and then seeing how things go.

I just don't know what to do :(
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Hey we were friends on another Ds acct. I sorry. I separated but we been working on things but he just decided no more and cut all contact. So basically I can relate. I am drained, heartbroken, dumb.
Anyways. Oct is still months away so maybe you guys can discuss this further. Therapy? Sending thoughts.
luvmykidsmore
luvmykidsmore
Sorry you are going through this. I asked for a separation from my wife months ago. I will be moving on with my own biological children in a couple of weeks. We are going to the opposite coast. For us, divorce is imminent.

Two things:

1. Let the separation happen naturally. Don't try to control the terms of the separation. Nothing will increase resentment more than one trying to control the other under these circumstances.

2. Prepare yourself for the worse. DO IT.
strongandsilent
strongandsilent
On the emotional side - so sorry you are going thru this. It is so painful. Sending you all my best thoughts. Oct is a long way away. If that is because you are still working on it, good luck! It is worth fighting for. If it is truly over, then it will be incredibly difficult for you to be living together. I hope you have people you can lean on.

On the practical side, I got 2 invaluable pieces of advice from friends I trusted
- Get yourself a therapist
- Get yourself a lawyer
Do what they say.

I was such an emotional basket case at the time that I definitely needed professionals with a clear head giving me advice - and I had to be in the frame of mind to take it.
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