Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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My ex girlfriend of 1.5 years and I broke up officially about 3 weeks ago. And we decided we were going to try to work on things and improve ourselves and make it work. Things seemed to be definitely better.
I really tried to improve myself, get out of my comfort zone and doing things for her. She didn't think I was doing enough.
fast forward to Saturday night. I was out of town and we planned to meet Saturday afternoon to have lunch and she ended up canceling on me, and hungout with her female friends. Turns out that later that night she went over to a guys house and stayed the night and lied to me about it. Then Sunday night after a day of fighting, she brought that same guy home and I saw him on the ring doorbell.
she said she doesn't consider it cheating since we were broken up which is true, but I felt like we were working on things and were getting better. I'm all broken up over this
You have to be there for yourself. My therapist told me i need to show up and be there for myself. Be my own best friend and be there to support myself. Its like talking to oneself but having a dialogue like " I notice I am feeling hurt and taken advantage of." Inner self help to say is "Hey Im here for you and its not fair she is doing that to you." I am trying to have the mind set of "Why is this happening TO me?" Instead of "Why is this happening FOR me?"
You are hurt and you are betrayed and there is nothing you can do in that area other than try to heal, stop imagining that the old days will ever be back and start moving forward. Too simple, but that is the bottom line. I agree that you need to look out for yourself. It does not matter whether she considers it cheating or not, she already did it and it will help you heal by learning not to depend on someone for your happiness. People will always fail. I assume that this is not the same girl you wrote about 2 years ago.