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How to tell your wife you are sorry

SadInPhoenix
SadInPhoenix
I have lied to my wife about view internet porn and about a year ago she found out about it. She comes from a very conservative upbringing and feels that that type of activity should be forbidden. Not trying to make excuses, but wasn't a daily habit just something to do when bored....

I have tried telling her I am sorry and that I want to be a better husband that she can trust. She says she doesn't know if she can trust me and feels that I am not the person she thought I was. She is talking about a divorce and the thought of loosing her and my daughter is killing me. I am willing to do ANYTHING to keep us together, I just don't know what to do.
SadInPhoenix
SadInPhoenix
I think another part of her reasoning for her not wanting to go to counseling is that her mother is a counselor/therapist and that woman is a complete basket case. My wife fully admits that her mother has a lot of issues (including from when my wife was a kid) and they don't speak anymore. Yeah there is a lot of nonsense drama here, more than you could fill entire library of books with.

I am just doing the best that I can, day by day. I try to find the little things to be grateful for and that can make me happy (if only for a short period of time). In the past when in situations like this I would have turned to chat rooms to find someone to chat with and pass the time. I am trying VERY hard not to get back into that rut again. Its just very lonely here, being alone and unsure what is next.
SadInPhoenix
SadInPhoenix
Sounds like all of the apologies and everything else won't do any good. She told me on the phone today that I need to pack up the things in the house, put everything into storage and rent a room with friend. Said she wants to get the divorce done as soon as possible. Says she doesn't hate me, just can't stand married anymore. Then I get a text from her tonight with "I love you".