I am so sorry that this happened to you, but glad that you found us. You ask how do we manage to get through to another day, and it is just one moment at a time. It's not easy, and I don't have any magic words that are going to make it happen for you overnight, but I can tell you that we have all felt similar to this, and we are all still here. We are in different stages of healing here, and we understand what you are feeling right now.
I can hear the betrayal, the loss, the shock in your post, and I am so sorry for your suffering.

What you are feeling right now is normal. I know that may be hard to hear, but no one is prepared for what has happened to you. You had no warning, no clues that you were aware of, and that is so hard when we don't have any answers.
Pull supportive friends close to you so that you don't feel quite so alone right now.
I don't know if you have children or if she left them too, but if she did , they are going to need one parent to be there for them.

Being sick adds even more to what is happening to you, and keep in close touch with your MD so that you can stay as healthy as you can during this huge change in your life.

Stay with us here, journal your thoughts. Try and take care of yourself and get into therapy if you need it to help you start to cope with her leaving.

We put together a manual for newcomers, and I hope that you find something that provides a small measure of comfort and peace at this awful time. Healing hugs, Kimmee

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/2816539-manual

I'm so sorry she has hurt you.

Kimmeee is right. Take each day one day at a time. Try to do good things for yourself and surround yourself with people who love and care about you.

Sending some healing hugs!!

I'm sorry you have to be here, but glad you found us!

I can feel the pain and shock in your words. Right now, concentrate on getting better and stronger so you can heal emotionally. Come and stay with us for a while. We're all a bit crazy, but we have all felt that terrible pain. You truly aren't alone.

I'm so sorry that you have had this thrown at you. Please be strong for yourself and nobody else so that your body can get better again. xx

Sorry youre hurting but so glad you found us. Everyone here has/is going through the same thing you are. We understand and offer support, advice and even an occasional laugh.

There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go.


We know that drill all too well and it is so sad to see someone going through this hurt. Here are the links that a fellow DS member, PGamble, put together. We all care. It's time roll up your sleeves and start taking those necessary steps before we MARCH MARCH MARCH. Do your part and we will walk beside you and you should seek counseling in addition to your daily strength. Godspeed.

http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/2816539-manual

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358621-stages

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358615-loveless

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358611-7steps

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358596-no-contact

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358587-forgiveness

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358584-loving-yourself

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358575-loneliness

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358567-pastas-posted

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups-Divorce/forum/Off-Topic-Posts/6358554-drama

http://dailystrength.org/help/crisis-resources

http://www.hud.gov/homeless/index.cfm

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/6969338-your-message

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/7880220-break-up-survival-guide/lastpage

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/8291684-survivors-bill-rights/lastpage


http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/2816539-manual

http://www.dailystrength.org/people/306091/journal/1599716

I'm so sorry for your pain and confusion sweety. Sometimes I wish there was a special police force we could send out to find out what the Hell is up with these people who break us and sweep us out the door.

Just know for now, that you have alot going on and need to be extra gentle with yourself. Try to somehow keep in mind, ..you did nothing wrong. You are a good, decent person who met up with a dark, selfish woman.

We're all very glad you found us. When you're up to it, vent here anytime...

(((((((Hug)))))))

Thanks everybody for your tremendous support, it's nice to know someone's there to help me heal.

And to kimmeee, I have a daughter who's almost 2 years old. We lost her mother to a blood infection shortly after our miracle was born. She's saved me more times than I can count.

And for those of you who mentioned it, I started therapy in either August or September for my depression. I haven't met with her yet since my ex walked away from me, so this next visit should be an interesting one.

Hugs to you and welcome to DS. Time is the great healer. I am so sorry for all you have been going through.

You know what? the whole 'time' thing? Sounds like a crock and it really pisses you off.

BUT: It's true. That's the sad fact about it. Time really does heal this. Just live everyday as best you can. Fake it if you have to and it will get easier.

Also, build up your network of friends around you. You'd be surprised whose out there willing to be in your corner. I found an old high school friend on Facebook and he has been a godsend having gone through this a few years ago.

Friends are awesome, exercise is great for helping you sleep. When you can't sleep, audiobooks are good.

I have so much trouble sleeping but I think it's because I can't breathe properly when I lay down. I think I need a dehumidifier or something of the sort. But I'm not sure because I'm not an expert.

And this is why people buy space on billboards and put up pictures of Assholes to warn the public. That's crazy! Granted some people handle crisis situations differently, but that was just terrible. You are better off without this person.

I even told her that chemotherapy is very hard and very trying and it's too difficult to go through without support. I had a feeling what she was saying was lies, again, but I couldn't walk away because I loved her, despite the lies.

I am sorry this happen to you. I know it hurts a lot and not having any answers to help you understand. I know my ex husband came home and told me he was tired. I am very sorry
big hugs

I'm sorry that you are going through so much. Please try to be strong for your daughter as she needs you now more than ever. You will get through this. You will. Divorce never killed anyone, although it may seem that way at first. God bless you and your daughter.