Great advice from everyone. I am like you trying to figure out who I am, I was (am, but not for long) a wife, mother, sister, daughter and ?. I have spent so many years looking after everyone else, I lost me. I too am trying to discover who am I and where did I go. I used to be strong and confident, then found myself depressed and anxious all the time, mostly because of the stress of addiction in my house, and a separation. It's soul sucking dealing with the end of a relationship (and the ravages of addiction).
What I have decided to do is to take one day at a time. Decide for that day (to that hour) I'm going to be happy, I am going to do one thing for myself that I enjoy (whether it's a walk, meditate, massage, coffee with friends, doing something artistic, take a course, learn a new languagewhatever). I gave so much to everyone else, I burnt myself out. Self care is a priority for me. I am in counselling, and support groups. I recently just took off to visit a relative in Australia (best thing I could have ever done for myself was to get away).
I think we all go thru periods in our life where we are reflective about where we've been and where we're going. Ask yourself what makes you happy? What gives you a sense of peace?
It's hard, everyone has great advice, but you just have to make yourself do it, even if you don't feel like it. Join a group (cooking classes, photography)A quote I like you can't look forward to the future if you keep looking at the past. Just know there's a lot of us out there searching for who we are and who we want to be. It's sad that we lost our way.you can do it! Hugs

Thanks everyone.....I am going to try to make myself busier so I am not dwelling on my situation so much. I really appreciate all of your support!

Thank you for posting this. As I was reading your comments if felt as if I was reading my mind. I too am in the process of a separation but still living in the same house due to financial circumstances. I met him in high school and have been together for 15 years (married 11). I am now 35 and feel like I dont know who I am. After being with him since we were kids I feel I never discovered who the true me was. Now that I am older, I don't know where to start. I've made my life to be about him and the kids. Our marriage has been hell and I know the best thing to do is to separate (divorce eventually) but I feel scared of the unknown. I don't have any friends due to the fact that I always tried to hide from my misery and not anyone know what I was going through in life. Evrything I did involved my husband and his family. I feel lost without him. I have not made a life of my own. This is the only reason why I have not left before. I don't know who I am, what I like, who I wan to be. I feel alone.