my stbx had already moved on before we even separated. He had taken his ring off, was texting friends on his cell phone...something he never knew how to do before...and when I asked who he was texting his answer was "none of your business. These are MY friends!" I truly am in disbelief over how much he changed in the blink of an eye.

The difference is the secret. Except that it is not a secret. Ask, believe, receive. Shape your tomorrow today with your thoughts and dreams. Thoughts become things.

I know exactly what you mean. I also posted and asked why it is that we suffer, but they get all the happiness.

I knew at least 5 years ago we were heading for a big cliff, it's just taken those 5 years to reach it.
We both have moved on because we both knew what was comming around the bend.
I had a very hard time, now it's a lot easier. Even my daughter notices the difference.

When he became inattentive to me and the family - I commented that it had been the most difficult year of my life. He said "Don't worry - I'm not going anywhere"

2 weeks later - I discovered that he had been just about EVERYWHERE! Truth be told - he had "moved on" 5 years prior to our final seperation. For him - it was over long before it was really over. I guess that is wht it was so much easier for him. We have been officially divorced for 4 months and I still think about him everyday - several times a day....SIGH!

I believe that it depends on what the relationship was.

Some of us have had a year, or more, of emotionally dead marriages...I have been on
"emotional life support" for 22 years...

I isn't that it is Easier, it is just a Different Battle. We have different demons that we are battling.

I know that I am pretty darned good at blocking out what stbx is doing (until it's so in my face that I can't) And I have already learned about finding happiness during hard times.

I also believe that many who have moved on didn't have "true love" with their partners. I know that my ex doesn't love anyone except himself. He puts himself and his happiness above all others including his children, family, girlfriend, and me (when we were married). Looking back, I can see that I have moved on fairly easily because I realized that I had lost my love for him due to his actions and behavior. I grieved for the loss of the marriage, but I no longer loved him and didn't miss him as much as I missed being married. It is really hard to be alone, but I'd rather be alone than in a loveless, deceitful marriage.

maybe it has to do with how long it was 'over' before the split. Some people also process things quickly. After spending nearly 13 years of growth with Wayne Dyer's teachings, it only took a week of banging my head against a wall to realize it was over for Her a while and it was time for me to look the other way.

Then it took 3-6 months before I was really ready to move forward and then never looked back.

I don't think they are emotionally strong-I think they are emotionally void-My X waited two weeks-and he was puzzled(yet flattered) I was still mourning the loss of our relationship-I DID NOT want him back and I knew I could no longer live with a man that treated me so badly-But I was still losing someone I had spent everyday of my life with for years-someone I gave my heart, body and soul, to.I remember the night he left-I was sobbing out loud, my heart was breaking-he never even flinched-my daughter had to tell him to hug me goodbye.Two weeks later he found yet "The One" once again-People like this can never truly feel real happiness and are never truly satisfied with it-they ususally move from one long term to another.We are normal-the ones who mourn-we are capable of feeling something they are unable to truly feel.I truly beleive he never mourned the loss of me-he celebrated it.