Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
well day 2 that she is away for the weekend....not sure where. She let me know she is ok. It's just hard for me to understand how a weekend away, which I think is one of her friends....a guy friend I don't know that she had feelings for, is going to give her the answers she needs to regain her independence.
I feel so sick to my stomach. I've lost 7 lbs over the last week and have 0 drive right now. I know I have to get better because I have 2 kids that look up to me. I am super stressed at work all the while I'm not sure if my wife wants me anymore.
I cant believe she is doing this to me again after she told me a few months ago that things are a lot better....
something tells me that this guy has tug at her strings a bit more and she is falling for him.
We plan to talk on Monday, and part of me wants to straight up ask her if she is falling in love with him. That will make it a very easy decision for me!!!!
So damn upset!!!!! Want a normal family back.
It is painful, but so is being in limbo. I've been there, both places. Ex wife pretended to try to fix the marriage (marriage counseling), but was already checked out. Then said she wanted a divorce. At that point I knew she was checked out and I made my moves - lawyer, new place to live, etc. Later I found out about her cheating. About 98% of the time (IMO) when you reach a place like this with a middle-aged spouse who "doesn't know what they want", "needs time to find themselves" - they are cheating. Sometimes just emotionally, but usually physically too.
Best wishes to you. Set that deadline. Act positive and normal at home, don't initiate any conversations with her. Let her initiate, speak cordially, no affection until/unless she initiates, including hugs/kisses. You are building the "new you" and you will need that foundation if (most likely) she is checked out and you are on the path to divorce.
Oh, and the fact that she's done this to you before - massive red flag!! Likely had a fling that didn't work out, came back to you. That is no way for you to live. Your princess is no prize. Good luck!