Everything will be alright. Focus on u n ur kids. Stay strong cause u have that in
you

Your kids need you. Please think of them at times like this. Don't hurt them for life. Try try try to keep busy and get past this immediate feeling.

I agree with you. This group has helped me so much and I'm new. The holidays are hard and this has helped. I can have a voice and be heard by compassionate people who know my pain. People care about you!

People can be caring and helpful. I'd like to believe there really is good people on this plant. Think of your kids. That's what helps me. They really need you as you do them. Please try not to think of harming yourself. Think of your children and not the ex. You can call your local crisis center, I have. Sometimes in the middle of the night and I just needed to talk to someone. There are good days ahead we just got to work hard to get there. HUGS

Thank you

Continue to focus on the kids, I know you can do this. The depression will pass. Sending you calming thoughts.

Try to stay strong and remember that things always get better. Sometimes it may help to think of other hard times that you made it though and all the good times that came after that. And most important, think of your kids too. You wouldn't want to leave them like that......remember after the storm the sun always comes out again. Try to get out for a bit with your kids to go do something fun....maybe make a new tradition. Sometimes even getting out for a bit will lift your spirits. Sending hugs to you.

Nothing is helping. I don't understand how your life partner can leave you behind. As if we never knew each other. I don't know what to say to the kids. There's no schedule, nothing. We were just left. He doesn't call or contact me at all. My friends and family have given up on me because I'm too sad.

Basnime, are you seeing a therapist or counselor? A good one in times like this can be a lifesaver. Even if you don't think you need to see someone, please do it. Ask around for referrals. Check out providers through your health insurance. It's tough enough to go through something like this without kids. And it is extremely difficult to go through a divorce or break up when its not what you want. And yes, friends and family do get worn down by the story. Not because they don't care but because they don't know how to fix it. A good therapist is paid to help you help you navigate this process. I hope you will consider it. XX

Please stay strong!! You are taking the right step now seeing the lawyer. You will make it through for you and your boys.

I will try therapy again. It didn't seem to help. Nothing can fix a broken heart. Thank God for this site. I'm still here. I've eaten, I am alive and ok.

Good. Please take care of yourself. We care about you!!

Thank you Koko! I care about you too.

I echo everyone's thoughts here, basnime. We all care about you greatly. I consider you a friend, and you and I have been posting on each itger's posts since I first came in here. I know how hard this is. You know I know how hard it is. Your kids need you and you need them. Spend as much time with them as you can. He's not worth the trouble. He's just not. You'll find someone who you deserve. Please don't lose sight if that.

We are all here for you. You can reach out to me at any time. Really.

Thank you

It's still very early your in the shit storm of the early days. Believe me it DOES get better it just takes time. This horrible feeling is temporary...in march it will be 3 years since my ex wife left after 24 years and believe me I thought about driving my car into a concrete barrier and hanging myself etc etc I'm SOOOO thankful I didn't I have an amazing relationship with my kids and my new job is awesome..I think about her now and then but am not in love with her at all anymore you have to go through the detachment it takes TIME..realistically 1-2 years ..but as months go by it gets easier and easier it really is a process..just go through it, and trust me you'll survive it and be amazed how strong you'll become for going through it