Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Well its over. Thats that. The friendship, the goodwill. I am now truly 100% alone here in this city.
She tricked me. It was all a lie. She got me to sign away my house, and our marriage so she could be with another guy. She played with my broken heart to get what she wanted.
One week to the day of catching her in our home with another man I find out she went to his house after I picked up the kids last night.
After she told me she had just met him and having him over had been an act of desperation. After she swore she wasnt seeing or talking to him anymore. After she promised me she would help me through this and we would be friends, together, until I was ready to let go. She lied about it all.
I feel so used and alone. It is obvious now that our marriage is ending this way because she has someone else.
How sad, pathetic and weak a person must someone be to decide they are ending their 10 year relationship only AFTER they know they have someone waiting for them in the background?
I am going to make sure EVERYONE we know, everyone we hung out with, our familys, the kids; knows the truth. That she jumped from her husband to some other guy while they were still together.
Not that she was doing what was best for all of us. Not that we mutually decided we were better off apart. Not that she needed to see what life was like by herself for the first time in her life.
Weak cold hearted bitch.
I thought I would never ever ever have to say that about her.
She tricked me. It was all a lie. She got me to sign away my house, and our marriage so she could be with another guy. She played with my broken heart to get what she wanted.
One week to the day of catching her in our home with another man I find out she went to his house after I picked up the kids last night.
After she told me she had just met him and having him over had been an act of desperation. After she swore she wasnt seeing or talking to him anymore. After she promised me she would help me through this and we would be friends, together, until I was ready to let go. She lied about it all.
I feel so used and alone. It is obvious now that our marriage is ending this way because she has someone else.
How sad, pathetic and weak a person must someone be to decide they are ending their 10 year relationship only AFTER they know they have someone waiting for them in the background?
I am going to make sure EVERYONE we know, everyone we hung out with, our familys, the kids; knows the truth. That she jumped from her husband to some other guy while they were still together.
Not that she was doing what was best for all of us. Not that we mutually decided we were better off apart. Not that she needed to see what life was like by herself for the first time in her life.
Weak cold hearted bitch.
I thought I would never ever ever have to say that about her.
But..
be careful. Your kids will hear it too.
People will see the truth whether you proclaim it to the world or not. Don't let her get your dignity, too.
Tell whoever you feel you need to to make yourself feel better but the buck stops at the kids. Dont tell them, dont do that to them, you'll only hurt them and look bad in their eyes. You need to draw that line and not put those children in the middle, that's just wrong.
Your angry now but in the end, arent you really better off for seeing the truth of the matter. Hang in there. It can only go up from here.
Oh yeah, the authors are: Elizabeth Landers and Vicky Mainzer
It's a hot-pink book, paperback, not very thick. In the book it says that men will never leave until they absolutely have something else set up with another woman. That's exactly what my husband did. I think you'll like this book if you can find it.
My 6 year old doesnt know anything except we live apart and are getting divorced. The rest im sure he will figure out when he gets older. Its not something I can really tell him about now even if I wanted to.
So sorry for what you are going through. I know you are hurt and angry, but please be careful what you say about her to the people you both knew. It may backfire on you and make you look like a very desperate ex husband and don't forget you two have children together.
Try to take the high road. Later on you will not regret it.
In the mean time, talk to a therapist and tell him/her what an ashole the ex was.
I'm all about not trashing the ex's to the kids. I don't think that means not telling them the truth. Since all of this affects them the most..I think they are entitled to a truthful..and age appropriate..explanation.
I agree with taking the high road. Vent here. Don't involve your children in your anger. See a lawyer. See a counselor. Get yourself strong and healthy and give your children all the love and support they need to get through this.
I just want this all to be over with.
I just want this to all be over.
My stbx calls me constantly. I hate the sound of his voice. I don't want to see him.
I just want to end this and move on.
I feel for you