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Head versus Heart

TSand
TSand
So my brain is pretty clear and says: She lied, she cheated and she spent money. Oh, heart, and by the way, she left and shows no signs of coming back. She doesn't want to go to counseling with you. In fact, she is not seeing either of your kids because they don't want to have anything to do with her and her crazy behavior right now. Wake up heart! See what is going on. Accept it. This is how it is. This is your life right now. There is nothing that you can do about it. Start getting your life back together and stop obsessing on her and your pain.

The heart answers: I miss her. I still love her. Despite all you say, if she wanted to come back I would take her in a second. I hurt. So much. All the time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i'm in the same place, just have to keep moving forward and knowing the time will come when my heart is healed.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow! are you listening to my brain and heart talking? I get what you are feeling! Everyone says I'm better off with out him, I can do better. ... The problem is I want HIM! Fool that I am.

One step at a time, and maybe, just maybe eventually our brain and heart will be singing the same tune!
deleted_user
deleted_user
ok.. i'm gonna hand u all my head on a platter. In my first marriage, I was the cheater. I came home one night and confessed it to her because the guilt I was feeling ate me up. I fully expected her to leave me. To my surprise, she wanted us together. I agreed as long as we figured out what went wrong...meaning how i could've done that to her...and she knew she woould have to forgive me. Long story short...after 3 yrs, she still hadn't forgiven me. She had lost all her trust in me and I had to tippy-toe around her with anything that i said. Oh and for the discussion last night...once a cheater, always a cheater?...just not true. I was faithful to her for the last 3 years of our marriage(after the affair)...then married current spouse and have been faithful for another 3 yrs. Ok...time for u all to let me have it. I'll try my best to answer as honestly and completely as i can
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