EEEKKKK... My stbx handed me some cash in June. He didn't ask for a receipt but asked for some "casual" sex. I called him a prick and went to work.

I don't know if I'm just in a pissy mood but something about this thread is really getting under my skin.

Why do you document everything diemjs? You must trust him implicitly if you are doing that. Should he not do the same thing? I'm completely missing something here. A year or two down the road I could see your x in court after an arguement about support payments. "Duhh , well I gave her cash really I did." He wouldn't have a leg to stand on. Now he does.

Trust is great in a marriage Sandy. It's rather foolish when your divorced.

Bernie - you are absolutely right in every way. You see, I am naive and trusting and I ended up getting it right up the a$$! Still, I can't change who I am, I can't turn into someone that questions everything, double checks - it's one of my biggest faults and my biggest assets. I am what I am.

when my ex gave me cash, i gave him a receipt...he asked why...i told him that it was just smart business...just a habit to have checks and balances.

Sandy,

I am in no way making this personal, I'm sorry if you were offended. I'm offering reasons why I would document everything.

Peace
B

No, babydoll, not one bit offended - honestly. It takes a lot to offend me and I can't imagine such a fine man as you being able to do so.

LOL...Receipts are only given on the first of the month...any day after the first should be like sandy said...toilet paper...JK
Gave me a good laugh today...so far :)

I think it all depends on your perspective.

My stbx asked for a reciept and other documentation (for lessons for son--he pays half).

On one hand, I felt like he was trying to make me jump through hoops.

When I tried to look at it from his perspective, I came to believe that he is probably trying to bring order to the chaos that has become our life. His son is not 14 hours away from him. He feels like he is bleeding money (this is his first month of having to pay child support, he also lacks my income contribution), plus with son starting school, there have been a lot of extras. I think he was trying to get some kind of handle on it.

That being said--he asked for the damn divorce so he could live his little "vida loca"--SO TOUGH FREAKIN' TOENAILS!!!!!!


pant, pant, pant...

(Chichi takes another deep breath--or 7)

It only takes a few minutes to fax a piece of paper--if that brings a bit of peace to an otherwise out of control world--so be it.

Breathe in, breathe out--and pour grace over the chapped areas...

(son is NOW 14 hours away...sorry bout that)

D ~ Maybe you could send him a receipt by certified mail and enclose a document that he needs to have a notary public sign that can verify that he not only received the receipt certified mail, but he is actually who he claims to be.... *la de da, la de da*

just kidding...... :)

I don't have a problem with him asking for a receipt. I wouldn't have a problem giving him a receipt. I think Z is right..just good business sense.

The problem I have is, he wants a receipt for a partial payment which is already late. That's kind of ridiculous and crappy. But I agree, damaging to him.

I do make copies of everything that is sent and received between me and my stbx. I think that's only wise.

My stbx's Crazy x-wife used to take him to court for not paying her child support. Fortunately he had insisted that she write receipts so he could prove he had paid. Which he had and she did. She was a lier like none other!

Its just good business sense and self protection... You just never know....

Try not to take it personally. Its more about him than it is about you.

A receipt is a good idea. It protects both of you. Have a great week end.

Some money is better than no money in my book...having to avoid the hassle of going after him in court and demand the money...have to struggle without the funds.

my kids do get court ordered child maintenance...and my EX took it upon himself to pay me every two weeks...his decision to split it into two payments....Fuktard!..my tenant pays me on time...always!

anyhow...at least the Fuktard is paying...so I am being flexible..as for your Fuktard...don't be starting a precedent here...with him doing this partial payment thing all the time.

give him the receipt...and tell him you want future funds paid up all at once. Don't allow him to make major pattern changes...understandably things happen and it was something he needed to do this time.

the child support unit takes the child support from his check automatically and they direct deposit the amount to my account weekly....nice not to be chasing money around!