Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My ex lost his job this morning (officially) after 6 years. He's actually happy about it as the managers didn't treat him the way he felt they should, though he was able to work more hours and get paid more than someone with his education generally would. He's out partying now, decided to shaft me on any financial support or even the car insurance that covers his car as well. He's acting like he's 16 and that he's suddenly able to be reckless and not worry about the consequences to anyone but himself. It's scary to rely on someone who's flaking out. He even plays the suicide card with me, that he's trying to find the least painful way to end it, and that my "obsession" with money is contributing to the "pressure" and his depression. I'm not obsessed with buying Jimmy Choos, I'm just trying to get the car insurance paid and know I have diaper/gas money.... apparently that's materialistic in his mind.
So, out of bad judgement, I was drinking last night as it was my dad's birthday. Having to spend 7 hours in a hospital and wake at 4 am with a hangover is ill advised. I posted some drunken thoughts here, which I guess is better than drunk dialing the ex, as alcohol can warp one's judgement and sentamentalize things more. It's hitting me now the utter mess I'm in with him, that I'm deeply worried how I'll pull off the full time RN program and get a job that accomodates my full schedule. I'm having a hard time keeping up with the academic demands, and my children miss me. I've put many job apps out there, but worry I'll drop the ball if all my free time is consumed making $8 hour when I have so much to cover in class. I feel I'm losing it. I feel this is his final attempt to really pull the rug out from under me.
Mostly I just feel alone. There's no one here to help make the kids dinner, or walk the dog, or even sit and have coffee with. The dog peed on the rug, my children fell asleep without much of a dinner, and I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to focus on school. I was pre-med at MSU, in the honor's college, then dropped over another man who was brilliantly sociopathic. I don't know why these relationship dramas seem to intensify when I'm really trying to get my career off the ground. I'll be 36 in Feb, likely spending it alone, and if I don't finish my education now it just won't happen.
So, out of bad judgement, I was drinking last night as it was my dad's birthday. Having to spend 7 hours in a hospital and wake at 4 am with a hangover is ill advised. I posted some drunken thoughts here, which I guess is better than drunk dialing the ex, as alcohol can warp one's judgement and sentamentalize things more. It's hitting me now the utter mess I'm in with him, that I'm deeply worried how I'll pull off the full time RN program and get a job that accomodates my full schedule. I'm having a hard time keeping up with the academic demands, and my children miss me. I've put many job apps out there, but worry I'll drop the ball if all my free time is consumed making $8 hour when I have so much to cover in class. I feel I'm losing it. I feel this is his final attempt to really pull the rug out from under me.
Mostly I just feel alone. There's no one here to help make the kids dinner, or walk the dog, or even sit and have coffee with. The dog peed on the rug, my children fell asleep without much of a dinner, and I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to focus on school. I was pre-med at MSU, in the honor's college, then dropped over another man who was brilliantly sociopathic. I don't know why these relationship dramas seem to intensify when I'm really trying to get my career off the ground. I'll be 36 in Feb, likely spending it alone, and if I don't finish my education now it just won't happen.
Your husband is overwhelmed and isn't dealing with his responsibilities. You have to get him to come back to reality. He is lost. Its a hard climb back up when he falls into that frame of mind. Try to be strong. Good luck.
I'm in an RN program and many of us work as aides. There are many places that actually Love us, as we are only available weekends, and that's when they have the most openings.
It IS really hard on the kids. I'm burried under work during the week, and often work nights and need to sleep days. I'm also studying constantly.
On the other hand, they see how hard it all is. And it will hopefully make them more committed when they grow up and go to school themselves. And they're also a LOT more independant than most kids their own age. (They know how to pack their own lunches, clean the bathrooms, and put frozen pizza into and out of the oven....and they're just 8 and 10. Oh and they also know how to do laundry! The school wants me to sign their homework everynight, but no way do I have time. My kids both do their homework all on their own. I help rarely....at least the school knows that I"m not doing their projects for them!)