I am so sorry for your losses.

Please find a good therapist to help you thru this.

~healing hugs~

Well it sounds to me like he is a POS! I dont need to know him to make that a true statment. I agree with MTC and say please get a good therapist to help you through this. You have a lot of trauma to deal with. I wish I had better words , but I just dont at this time.

I am sorry for your loss and will pray for you !

I am sorry that he manipulated you into having an abortion, and that you are hurting. There are therapists that are trained to assist you in processing the abortion experiencing. You are dealing with two losses simultaneously.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Hugs to you.

I am so, so sorry to hear this has happened to you. Sadly, you cannot turn off your feelings by a switch and I understand that it is easier said than done to be happy that he is gone.


What your ex boyfriend done was disgusting and so very cruel and cold hearted. I don't think anything will ever mend your pain or regret, but I do think you have every right to tell people what he has done to you. You're a human being, you were pregnant and vunerable...he took advantage of that and has left you to clean up the peices.

I personally would tell you to not go near that man again. Do not give him the time of day, especially since he is off partying with other women but is that what you want?

If so, then I would suggest that you write him a letter on how you feel, what you have been through and give your final goodbye. Have him KNOW what he has done, and let it eat him alive.

Promise yourself, once you post this letter that you will not contact him again. That this letter is a final goodbye and once it is posted, there is no going back.

Like everyone else here suggested, go and get yourself some therapy. What ever support you have around you, take it with both hands.

Reading you post has angered me so much. I know what I would do, but as they say... "two wrongs don't make a right" and my ideas may come across as too cruel, so better left unsaid.

I know it is easier said that done, but you must move on and do not go near that man again. You have to be cruel to yourself to be kind. It will be worth it in the end.

Stay strong and again, I am so sorry to hear what has happened to you.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement. I'm seeing a therapist and taking an anti-depressant to take the edge off. but
The part that hurts the most is knowing I've already been replaced by some new girl. Like all we went through together meant nothing to him. And the whole time we went through it, he made statements like "honey I love you, this is going to bring us closer together". I trusted and believed in lies.

Hi again KLG,

Thanks for getting back to us and I am glad you're getting yourself sorted. I know it hurts, but in time it will get better. Be kind to yourself and take care, if you ever need to talk dont be afraid to send me an email.

(Big hugs) xxxxxxxxx

As days go on you will have better day but some days will still be painful. You endured alot of pain with abortion and the breakup. You need someone who will support you not this. It's not an easy process and hope you have good friends or family to lean on. Take it one day at a time.

I am very sorry to hear how you were manipulated. You can't go back so now you will have to forgive yourself. I would strongly urge you to go see a counselor. If that's not possible, then search for a support group? I understand you live in a small town, but is there a bigger town where a group would be available that a reasonable drive?
I understand your hurt in losing him. But he is a liar and only concerned about himself. Deep down you know you don't really want to be with someone like him. He's a fake and out only for himself. He used you. You deserve so much better. Try to build up a group of people to help support you thru this. It's going to be hard. I totally understand you wanting him. I still have periods i want my stbx back. But i've realized i want the companionship, not her. It is a tough road ahead for both of us. You will be ok. Just love and take care of yourself. Come here and vent as often as you need. Many hugs to you!

(((HUGS))) the best way to move on is going no contact and asking friends and family not to give you any info on the EX. Sorry you are going thorough all this, but I am glad you are seeking help (therapist). Praying for you to feel better soon.

he did not go through anything with you.
he did put you through hell.


it is sad to see you hurting so much

Thank you everyone for your encouragement. I'm trying to be strong. Some days are better than others. My biggest thing is just trying to stop blaming myself and going over regrets because there's nothing I can do to change the past. I wish I could stop holding onto hope that he will one day realize the pain he has caused me and apologize.

I'm sorry you're having to go thru this, I can't even imagine what your feeling. You need to remain strong and logical. Do you really want a person that doesn't want to be responsible for his own creation? His own blood? Regardless of how he feels about you it was his responsibility. He's already seeing other people, and IMO someone like that can't be trusted. You deserve someone better than him. Even if he wants to get back together tomorrow do you really want to live with the torture of being with someone you can't trust? That part I do understand, and it's miserable way to live. I would rather be alone forever than do that again. I wish you luck. I know everyone says it gets better with time. It really does, but sometimes it gets worse before it starts to get better. It WILL get better though.

There is NO reason you should be blaming yourself !!! You did nothing wrong except listening to the one you loved, and anyone that sat down with a loved one and discussed the situation would have done the same thing ! he fooled you ! He did not want to be stuck with child support payments. He took you for what he could and he just dumped you ! He is an ass**** ! Sorry for being so blunt, but the truth can hurt !
I hope he can become a human being and apologize also, but stop holding your breath ! Your hurting yourself now, and no one wants that.
You have my prayers everyday.