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Here is my story if you havent read it before : http://www.dailystrength.org/people/3039556/journal
Ugh I am so Mad at myself, Cant stop crying since 8pm!.
Got an email from the STBX about finalizing some things.. and out of nowhere on the bottom he wrote "he still loved me and missed me"...He said that he had to leave because he felt emasculated in the relationship.
And that us separating was bound to happen.
THis just brought my whole world down right now. Especially reading him say he loved me...please tell me.. this isnt love right? you dont abandon someone you love right? I dont know what to feel.
It makes me wonder...what if I am the one in the wrong?
Im sorry for ranting again I am just so angry...I was doing so well, I was so proud of myself and then Im back again in this place where i cry inconsolably
I dont know how he cant care? WHy he didnt even want to try to save his marriage.
Im sorry to all of you who have to read this again and again...You guys weren't kidding when you said this was roller coaster..
Ugh I am so Mad at myself, Cant stop crying since 8pm!.
Got an email from the STBX about finalizing some things.. and out of nowhere on the bottom he wrote "he still loved me and missed me"...He said that he had to leave because he felt emasculated in the relationship.
And that us separating was bound to happen.
THis just brought my whole world down right now. Especially reading him say he loved me...please tell me.. this isnt love right? you dont abandon someone you love right? I dont know what to feel.
It makes me wonder...what if I am the one in the wrong?
Im sorry for ranting again I am just so angry...I was doing so well, I was so proud of myself and then Im back again in this place where i cry inconsolably
I dont know how he cant care? WHy he didnt even want to try to save his marriage.
Im sorry to all of you who have to read this again and again...You guys weren't kidding when you said this was roller coaster..
Regardless, it appears you both need to address certain things individually if you are ever going to be able to get past this and at least even be cordial let alone be together. it also appears he will continue to use what was done in the past as an excuse to do what he wants now and in the future. The only way to stop that is to address it and mark is as done. if he wants to continue to be emasculated and play the victim, you have to just let him do that. You know what is what and knowing that it should allow you to move on past the drama he wants to keep around for his benefit.
I'm sure you haven't read my journal, but he is gone, left when I was working. Things between me and him will never be ok again. I wanted to do therapy, but he fought me every time I brought it up. He said he didn't need it.. That it wasn't for him