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hard hard two weeks

Jmit129
Jmit129

I;m at the becking call of my emotional abusive partying on/off again ex.  how do i get out of this when i have noone else but him?  i can't be alone everyday anymore, we are not meant to be lonely creatures.

serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Well a period of alone is going to be necessary to work on yourself before another relationship. I can relate to all I had was my ex and while we have kids I essentially have no support system. Focus on working on yourself, doing things you enjoy. Possibly seek therapy as maybe there is some co-depedence going on.
cbgrace1980
cbgrace1980
I am so sorry you are in this position. We aren't meant to be lonely creatures. You are right about that. But we don't deserve to be mistreated and abused either. It can be very hard to separate from a toxic person, but it is worth it for your own peace of mind and safety. It's not easy, but it can be done. You are not alone!
Lavender80
Lavender80
I'm sorry you're feeling lonely in that relationship. Abusive relationships make up feel like we have no choices but the situation and the person we are with.

I'm here to tell you those are mental and psychological walls your abusive partner has put there. Isolation is a tactic to keep you exactly where you are.

Now what? You need to work on yourself if you don't feel strong enough to walk away and leave. Maybe you can talk to someone in your life like family or close friend, and disclose what is really going on. They can help support you leaving.

If you remain there...use that as your time to strengthen your mind, and make plans for your departure. Read up all you can on emotional abuse, how to heal from it...work from there. Lots of online articles and website on the internet.

You will see that you are not alone...and many women and men are going thru what you do. I believe one in 4.

Don't let your brain convince you you have no options...that's your partners words...the world is your option.

Sending you light and love!
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