Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Hi friends,
I am at a point of despair once again in my life, breakdown and crying, stress and depression... maybe all contributing to a heartache, or is it the heartache contributing to my problems? I have tried keeping my head up, but lately it just hit me that the guy I have been seeing isn't as much into me as I am into him... due to me not having a job right now I'm sure, but more likely it is my NO sex policy. Am I confused and at this all wrong? Am I supposed to have sex with a guy for him to be that into me? Does the commitment start then? I know I could fall easily for this guy, but I just don't know if I should allow myself to.
Need lots of hugs,
Lee
I am at a point of despair once again in my life, breakdown and crying, stress and depression... maybe all contributing to a heartache, or is it the heartache contributing to my problems? I have tried keeping my head up, but lately it just hit me that the guy I have been seeing isn't as much into me as I am into him... due to me not having a job right now I'm sure, but more likely it is my NO sex policy. Am I confused and at this all wrong? Am I supposed to have sex with a guy for him to be that into me? Does the commitment start then? I know I could fall easily for this guy, but I just don't know if I should allow myself to.
Need lots of hugs,
Lee
If he's truely into you.. he will wait.
but dam i'm sorry you are hurting
((hugs))
his loss.... not many people have "the no sex thing" its all about sex, and frankly its over-rated
Sex is safer, and more you usually get more satisfaction with yourself...
I just don't get it. He takes me out all the time, met his friends & co-workers, gives me all kinds of small gifts to let me know he is thinking of me, takes time off work to spend the day with me, mentioned he is renewing his passport (after I mentioned I have always wanted to go on a cruise and just got my passport), all the signs that he is interested. Yet he is online tonite, after telling me a couple of hours ago, since he got home late after our date last nite & had to get up early for church, he is tired. I don't know how to feel...
How do you know he's online?
I guess I'm confused. Is there something that you haven't told us? Just how much time do you spend together during the week? It sounds to me like you're together a lot but I may be misreading the post. If you are together a lot, then it's okay for him to want some breathing time for himself.
But are you concerned that he is online perhaps looking for dates?
Again, need some clarification.
You are worth the wait! Hugs!
Carm, you are so right. After all the ooh and ahh, now I'm seeing his flaws and he IS into himself a lot! I can put up with it, it's not horrible, but very typical man (his words not mine).
Lee
Ok, I am probably going to catch hell for this, but screw it.
Bang the guy already.
Someone said that you shouldn't compromise your value system, however, what if his value system, and his views on a healthy and happy relationship include sex as part of the package?
You are asking him to compromise his system for yours, where you should be finding a happy medium where you both can coexist.
As a man, who was in a sexless marriage, I can say for a fact that if I was with someone for three months, and we are serious, if we hadn't had sex, it wouldn't last 4 months.
I doubt it would last 3 even.
I know a guy that's 44 that is playing by those rules.
I am a try before you buy kinda guy, but I respect the concept, and sometimes wish I wasn't weak in that respect.
there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I just started birth control just in case he is the one, but we both cannot have a baby right now.
Lee