Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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ranger7722000 07/09/2011

Long story short...what started out as a long distance relationship that turned into her wanting to move to Florida and have a life with me has now turned to..in a matter of 48 hrs.... "I don't want to be boyfriend/girlfriend anymore" and "reality has hit and I can't make this move right now". I never saw this coming. I was ready to start my life with her. Now I am lost.

In her words, we are no longer "together", although she doesn't want to know if I'm dating anybody.

HIstory: She was married this time last year...had an affair during the engagement...got married anyway....that lasted 6 months...went back to the guy she had an affair with.....that lasted 3 months...then I came in the picture.

Despite all this I loved her dearly and still do. Should I try getting her back with no contact? Or should I RUN??

CopingJust 07/10/2011

Run like hell. And don't look back.

deleted_user 07/10/2011

I just don't understand how you could love someone who broke up with you and clearly changed her mind and is a cheat. Think about the qualities you want in a gf don't hang on to something that's proven to be bad. Remember "If they will do it with you they will do it to you" Obviously she can't be faithful and ripped the rug right out from under you. Don't waste your time or your love on someone who doesn't feel the same and doesnt deserve you. It's cliche but people can only hurt you if you keep going after something that's proven to be hurtful.

Good luck to u

JustASimpleGuy 07/10/2011

Ranger, she sounds radioactive to me. I think you should run as fast as you can.

Her recent past is telling you who she is at this moment in time and in no uncertain terms. Believe it. You might think your love for her will change her, but the odds are vastly stacked against that.

CMondo 07/10/2011

run, Forrest, run.

By history, she will do the same with you after both of you are together. It clearly shows a pattern.

charlotta 07/10/2011

hi

not being emotionally invested in your situation, I would tell you to walk away, or at the very least proceed with extreme caution.

Having been in a "yo yo" relationship, it is very hard to do. I would try to listen to what she is telling you and showing you. She does sound like she is having trouble knowing what she really wants.

It sounds like she needs to take time ALONE and figure that out before she involves any one else's heart... That being your heart.

Hugs.

lori47 07/10/2011

Run. Harsh I know. But the reality is if its this difficult to make it work in the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship, its not going to hold up in the long run. BTW, was in a relationship for 27 yrs, so I do have some experience on the different stages of relationships. Mine just failed to get the kids raised and back on our own.

deleted_user 07/10/2011

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am going through this too, unfortunately. But you know what? Even though it doesnt seem like it sometimes, you deserve someone who loves you and actually wants to be with you! Its taken me a while to realize that for myself, but now I do. Even thought it hurts and I miss my ex so much, bottom line is he doesnt love me and cant give me the relationship I want and deserve. I am doing No Contact with him right now, and its rough, but its the best thing. Hang in there! You can do it!

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