I don't think you fight it bro.

I think you feel it and let it pass through you.

Feel all of it, then let it pass. If you fight it, you will continue to fight it, and never get through it.

But to function, you have to fight it...
Often there is no time to feel it and let it pass. People have to work and manage their responsibilities. You can't lose it at work.

Bro,

I have cried in my boss's office on several occasions. I feel no less the man for it.

Pain is pleasure? In what way? Soon you must be meeting some interesting women there.

lol unless it's dealing sex and I'm really in the mood to play along.

*nudges sweets* psst this is serious. No mention of acotay.

Thanks, TD. It is serious, but it's probably hard for people to take a guy who talks about tacos all the time seriously. I don't care. I like humor. I'm not a big fan of pain, though. When I got out of the shower this morning, I grabbed my towel and literally collapsed on the floor. I almost got sick. I think this shit does catch up to you. I think all people have a breaking point. But, I dried off, got dressed and went to work. Hope this helps someone today. If not, then I'll go back to taco talk...

I'm being serious.

I was just asking soon what he means by what he said. Maybe there is more to it than I'm thinking.

Bro, this shit causes ulcers and strokes if you try to keep it bottled up.

There is a way that does work though.

Schedule it. Say I am really going to be with this, intensely for an hour, a half-hour, whatever you need. Cry, throw things, yell, scream whatever you need to do. Then as time progresses, schedule less and less time. Before you know it (not really... you'll know it), you will be through it.

Ok, so I put a little twist on it, but, pain is necessary. If you do not know pain, you do not know the opposite of pain, so, being able to embrace pain, deal with it, and grow from it, you can know and understand the opposite of pain.

Cry and let it out....crying is good for the soul!

What was your trigger today sweetie?

Sometimes it blindsides you and right when you're feeling OK, BAMMMM down like a quarterback.

Go ahead, get back in the shower cry, scream, wipe the snot and if you gotta do it all over again - go ahead. I'll have plenty of towels waiting.

p.s. Evil ex will get hers for giving up Gato. There's a place in hell for animal haters. grrrrrrr!

Dear 'D'...I have been alongside with you in your trek to dealing the best way you can. I am sorry for what you are going through and what you are about to go through with the demise of the marriage for you and your children.

Comedy is a great stress reliever and I have noticed that I am losing that part because it allowed me to fake it till I make it....

So, you fell but know we are here to pick you up however you want us to and whatever style you need us to.

I wish I could pray for you but, these days, I can't even pray for myself. Do know that I do want you to have a peaceful journey through this battlefield of divorce.

Was it your birthday R? Birthdays and holidays can send you to the edge.

You're another year older, wiser, and closer to the joy that you deserve.

"... I feel lost, or have I lost enough?
Remaining friends remind me as they say:
'It's up to you, you, you....the things you throw away.'"

So decide what you're going to keep dragging around with you like so much baggage, or start throwing away the crap you don't need.

It's up to you.

Soon - nice twist there. I'm impressed. *bow*

you cant avoid sadness.. you can fake it til you make it, but you just cant avoid all the feelings.

i'm dealing with stuff right now and i'm fighting with all my might to not go back to square one

the odd thing is - it isnt even anything to do with the x ass, but every time i feel bad all those feelings come back up..not the whats ifs, just the i'm so tired of the pain and pain = x so its kinda like a circle lately i cant fight my way out of