Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I hope everyone has been ok I haven't been on here in some time I am up early because I just can't sleep I have been in this relationship for 8 years this man I been with in the last 3 years has had some alcohol issues he was in rehab a few times but never finish he would come out and for awhile he would be fine then he would start again I have stayed with him through this and even though the passing of his family members I really cared about him Recently he had to have a test done for his liver and he stop drinking for a week he did good but after the test he went and got so drunk I guess he got drunk he never made it home did not call me all day until that night I did not answer because I knew he was going to ask me to pick him up I would not have had a problem with that but I call myself doing tough love so he called back the next day I never found out who he was with but he left a message saying that he got wasted but never said who he stayed with he finally went to his sister house I took his clothes there and took my keys why am I feeling that I did something wrong I am so Tired of the drinking and being with someone 8 years and still not married I know some people after reading think I am an idiot I need to let go but it's been hard
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this still. It does seem that after 8 years, he is not going to change on his own. Not to be unkind, but you are enabling him to continue drinking and doing whatever he wants.
But, if you take some actions, you can get him the help he needs.
Do you know any of his family members that you could contact and let them know what has been going on? I realize this will be a hard thing to do, but really, you can't do this alone anymore. It is taking a toll on you.
You can also go to Al-Anon.
I think you need to really think about these things - Is this really how I want to spend the rest of my life? Am I going to take care of him, even though we are not married, and do this forever? Is this the kind of life I have always wanted? The kind of partnership I dreamed of?
Seeing a therapist for yourself could also help sort out your feelings and make your next actions more clear.
Put yourself FIRST. You have done more than enough for this person who won't help himself. Nothing will ever change... until you do.