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Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

Hi,

I am new to this group and rather than make my friends and family members around me worry (even though I have opened up to all of them with my concerns about our marriage) I thought it would be nice to get some unbiased perspective and some love. I am feeling really lost in my marriage and thoughts of Divorce have been creeping in more and more lately. We have only been married for a few years but my husband can't seem to hold on to any jobs, has started smoking and drinking again and just seems like he can't truly figure out what makes him happy other than his favorite sport activity that he leaves me to do EVERY Day before his work leaving no time for me. I have been going through the same conversations with him for years..WHEN IS ENOUGH ENOUGH..I still love him but this isn't the life I wanted. Any thoughts or words of encouragement would really help.

Thanks,

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Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

Any advice would really help

mirandac 02/28/2017

Personally i would go to therapy to talk it out and to
Work thru those very questions. No one Can/should
tell you what to do about your marriage That is a very
personal decision to make.

I also attend alanon if that would help you if there has
been ongoing addiction isssues To contend with. You
Can only fix and control yourself not anyone else HUGS

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

Thank you so much! We started marriage counseling and stopped bc things seemed to be getting better. I Think you're right it's time that we go back . ❤

mirandac 02/28/2017

Well if that does not work, i would go it alone
to talk about Where you are at with your own
therapist.

I guess :) MC works if both are willing adults,
no addictions Or ongoing abuse, no cheating
Or living with an emotionally checked out spouse.

I had no luck with it, many use it as a last ditch,
I know we did, the marriage was too far gone
To be productive and he had no desire to fix it
Or work on it. His Thoughts and eyes were else
Where, HUGS

jojored 02/28/2017

Need some clarification on your situation.....you've only been married a few years and you say you've had the same conversations (about not making time for the marriage and you) with him for years. So, basically you've been on different tracks your entire marriage?

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

Yes he always said he would change not doing the sport he does everyday but hasn't and has promised for years. He is kind to me and no cheating on either ends just no change on his end with this either.

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

I must add could all responses be sent with love please I am in an emotional state right now and need to be sent love and kind words. Say what you want and I do want to hear advice/opinions ( Obvioisly that's why I joined this group) but please say and send them with love. Thanks

Cora_Belle 02/28/2017

What sport is this? How is it detrimental to the health of your marriage?

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

It is detrimental bc he goes and does that and then heads to work after so there is no time for me unless I partake in the activity with him. He isn't off work till later in the nighttime. So, there isn't any us time.

Cora_Belle 02/28/2017

What is this sport? How much time does it take out of his day?

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

I don't want to give specifics bc I want to remain totally anonymous but it takes from morning till he works so I won't see him till after he is off work around 11 pm

Cora_Belle 02/28/2017

Since you are intent on being value about the situation, I can offer no concrete advice. All I can say is that I'm am glad my husband doesn't get upset when I pursue the activities that interest me and make be happy instead of demanding that I spend every non-working waking moment with him.

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

Cora_belle,
Please be kind in your answers and you are not hearing what I am saying.. being supportive of hobbies is one thing but if your husband left NO time for you bc he did his hobby everyday and then worked and you got no time.. I doubt you would be so stoked.

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

ChelseaLeigh thank you for understanding. It's really hard.

Serendipitous123 02/28/2017

Thanks guys ❤and please just messages sent with love not harsh judgements.. There is a difference.

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