I feel you brother, many of us here with the same feelings and pain. I am in month 3 of divorce, and have a very hard time daily. Just keep waking up and going about your day, don't shelter yourself from people. I keep hearing it gets better with time, I certainly hope it does for mine and your sake.

Thats a long time 8 years to be in a committed
long term relationship. Do you think there is
someone else?

Many times in marriages that is the case, one
Spouse is checked out emotionally then they plan
their departure. You just don't know their intentions.

Going to therapy at this time is very helpful with
Helping you cope and process and divorce care
.org is a great program or if they have a breakup
Group. Let yourself grieve your losses and be
Gentle and kind to yourself. Grieving takes time.
HUGS

Welcome! I have been married for 23 years and am about 6 months into my divorce. I totally agree with Mirandac about therapy. It saved me. There were many weeks where I just lived to get to my next therapy appointment. In fact, I think I spent the first two appointments just sobbing in my chair. There is no shame in getting therapy when you need it. I found a great therapist on Psychology Today's website. They have a feature where you put in your zip code and get back the profiles of every licensed therapist in your area. You can choose the one(s) you like and arrange a phone interview. That's how I got mine. Even though it hurts like hell right now, it's important to feel those feelings and express them. Don't try to drown them in alcohol. Working out helps a lot too. It exhausted me to the point where I didn't feel the feelings so much and when I went to bed, I actually slept.

Starfish, Im so so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I can relate more than I would like to. It's a hard place to be in. You will repeatedly hear and read how its going to be okay and God knows how much I want to believe that. All Ive been able to do is take it to God. I was feeling like the only person that could fix me was the love that left me. But the truth is that the one who broke us cannot be the one to fix us. This is a terrible place and you feel so out of control. The pain consumes you and you feel overwhelmed with sadness. I know. But all we can do is go through it. Aside from getting the support you need from people close to you, a therapist, a local church, anywhere you can get it, you have to keep going. As much as you may want to, dont allow yourself to ball up and die. We cant keep giving energy to these circumstances. I wish there was something I could say that would take this away. Trust me, Im telling myself this as Im telling you this. We are all going through it too and supporting each other can help. *Hugs*

Thank you all for being so genuine.
And for taking the time to write about your own stories.
It means alot to me that you guys reached out.
You are all right in everything you said... and it has given me some sense of relief that I am not completely alone in this.