Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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imiru 09/29/2016

even though my now ex and I havent spoken in weeks, its still hurts to hear from our friends group that he still talks to them about me. And it worries me, because he promised me that he would tell me the second he got a new girlfriend or finally decided that he could never try again with me. However, the way he broke up with me was a wake up call to his attitude.

He completely ignored me and I had to call him multiple times to get him to finally say to my face that he wanted to break up.

I have a bad feeling he's not gonna keep his promise and I want to ask one of my friends if they can just keep an eye out for me. It hurts so much to have to ask but I should know better by now, he doesnt want me anymore.

Why am I still stressing over this?

lonelygal27 09/29/2016

I have been there - not once many times with the same person, best not to know anything and also tell your friends never to talk about him.

Jmit129 09/29/2016

I sgree. I am one week into a breakup, 2 years of living together. I deactivated facebook and changed my number and gave it only to my personal friends and family. I cut off contact with him and everyone associated with him. It's my defense mechanism. It does help not to worry that you'll be hurt again or hear something you don't want to hear.

Kimmer 09/29/2016

It's the worst feeling over knowing you've been demoted to ...and why do they get to just not feel while we burden all the hurt. Every single day I cry randomly when the anxiety has taken its toll on me..sometimes I can't even be around people. It's so bad. Then I try not to text him and then anxiety comes back. Why can't I let it go ...why can't I just be like everyone else and just except it when someone throws them away. I'm crushed

Kimmer 09/29/2016

Tell your friends to seriously not tell you anything. Don't trust your ex anymore ..he isn't who you thought he was

samantha717 09/29/2016

Tell your friends not to talk to you about him and then block him on all social media and on your phone. You can't heal when you keep ripping off the scab. Instead of focusing on him moving on, focus on YOU moving on. Get involved in some new activities, take a class, or start up a new hobby.

thiscantbeit 09/29/2016

You know why we call them "boyfriends"? Because most of them have yet to graduate to being a"manfriend". Most of them are emotionally immature, selfish, and proud. They allow us to pour into them everything that we have and then when they're done they just toss us like we ain't $#^!. Allowing him a choice or any access to you still gives him some power. Take that back. Deal with this pain head on and completely. Dont prolong it by allowing him to play games. Tell your friends to keep all information about him away from you. We have to get past this. We cant allow these "men" to have this over us. As I say this to you, Im telling myself. Anything I say in this group is to myself first. *Hugs*

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