Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Do you think that it would be a bad thing for a couple to stay together and "fake it" for the kids sake? What if a couople just decided that they would pretend to be happily married, just so the children could live with both their parents. There could always be that possibility of the couple working things out in the future, right? And if not, then at least the kids could would avoid the mess of divorce. Any thoughts?
Personally my kids and I are better off emotionally since the divorce...
Kids are very observant, even though my parents 'acted' like they were happily married we (the kids) picked up the other vibes in the house. To me it was like walking on eggshells..
When they finally split up we were so relieved, the horrid stress was gone..
Anything is possible, if you two really make an effort to make the marriage work out, it could work..
With that said, why fake it? Not only will it hurt YOU and the spouse but the kids will be hurt either way. I guess you are prolonging the hurt for the kids until they are adults. Kids understand and will adjust to the new life. Infact for my kids although it was difficult at first, they adjusted well and like the fact they can go to either place.
I understand the thought process, I really do. I think it would be great if it worked out as well as it sounded but the reality of it is not the same.
I'm with a no, I love my kids but there is no way I can live with someone who hurt me as bad as my stbx did. I think people need to live their lives and even though we try not to hurt people, we do. I think everyone deserves happiness in their life and our plan is mapped out for us. I guess basically is I don't agree with staying together for the kids. At some point "One" of the parents will stray to get that loving feeling and at the end of the day the other will be hurt with the "hopes" of it working out.
Hope that wasn't to clustered for the mind to understand.
We found peace once my dad moved out and announced their divorce. Children are alot smarter than we give them credit for.
It's true children would rather be in a broken family, then live in one.
Sure there is that possibility of working things out, but usually past behavior predicts future behavior.
Rman, Just don't get into a big fight about it at the taco stand, and walk off without finishing your dinner.
So, ask me how I feel about this matter?