Paxil and buspar are helping me. You can see a general practitioner in my state which was easier. Glad you're going to divorcecare and reaching out to talk. Constant prayer and a good counselor and support group have been a huge help.

Anger comes later...you're in the early stages of grief. It's a sucky ride but trust it gets better.

That describes her attitude totally, she cheated and just seems so totally unaffected by the whole thing. I DONT KNOW HOW YOU CAN DO THAT AND NOT CARE!!!! I just wish that she would have chosen someone else instead of my friend. That is what I need to focus on, her total disregard for me, our son discovering it, or his wife, her friend. It is just so coldhearted. She is setting herself up for total failure. I know that all of this is not going to end well.

I am in Texas and will be seeing a general practitioner . He could not get me in until Thursday, but I will take it if I can get some relief.

Do these meds help with sleep also?

With my ex, his two women were in his AA group

The One he was mentoring it was an emotional
Attachment and the other one they were Friends
and he counseled her. Both had been In my home,
one lived across the street.

The one he left me for was the one that was dry
and He was good friends with, they had a very
strong bond Before he left. He made sure he had
A nice soft landing And a strong new strong relationship
before cutting the marital and financial Ties with
Me and all the ensuing divorce fallout.

Betrayal, rejection, hurt, pain, broken vows, trust,
Faith, dishonor. He had absolutely no care for me
By the time he made his decision to cheat. He use
To be very moral man, way more than i was, maybe
the Word should be more Judgmental of others than
I was. Life changes, people change. He wanted out
For a very long time, i just could not accept that Concept.
I knew in my gut i should have left long ago. HUGS

I tried strong dose T/R melatonin i think 10 mg
So i could sleep thru the night it made me groggy
the next day.

The valerian root i can take 1 or 2 pills and
Sleep deeper. I am still tweeking it but i do
Get a little side effect. I am edgier so i need
To be mindful and keep an eye on that.

Sorry to be so wordy others will come on.

Just been there and no i did not go over
The edge but was close. I will never let
Another person have that type of power
Over me Again. HUGS

Yes Xanax helped with sleep as did melatonin...and my ex wife..24 years and runs off with our daughters boyfriends dad, who I bbqed for and had over for the July 4th celebrations...so yeah believe me this betrayal isn't as uncommon as you think. And she was happy as a clam too like no biggie. They've already done the detaching believe me..they don't give a shit at this point who they burn it's all about them and "their happiness"

Stay strong in that meeting dude. Don't cry and or beg. When my ex dropped the bomb I suggested counseling but she was dead fast against anything she was done. I said one word...Fine. And walked away from her. The best revenge is living well and not showing them they've destroyed you. Good luck hang in there. I'm 2.5 years out and it really does get better.

Yes that is what I plan to do, I have already said my piece, I am going to let her talk and if that is the way it goes that is exactly the way I am going to respond. Talking on here all afternoon has really helped. I also keep a journal scriptures that I break out when I feel an attack coming on. Were you truthful with your daughter about your meetings or did you not say anything?

Very truthful with my daughter, she's 19 now 17 at the time and she knows who cheated and blew it all up, hard to hide considering who she ran off with. My ex has tried to tell her she never cheated but my daughter knows that's a bald face lie. All her weekends away "with the girls" but not responding to texts even from her. She still lives with me I got her through high school with counselor meetings and she's recently completed veterinary assistant school while with me. My ex lives In a shitty apartment with mr wonderful. I've made it very clear who the sane parent is who is still here for my kids. Both my kids spend holidays with me not her. They've been my rock. Over time the rose colored glasses come off and you realize life with a cheater ain't any kind of life at all. Just hang in there.

I have never tried medications for a problem like yours