I feel your pain. I feel just the same.
I think its a traumatising event and we have to accept it takes time to heal. I best into tears today while having lunch as a song came on the soundtrack in the restaurant…. it does get better though. Day by day you will get stronger. You will. xxx
I don't hate him either. I just feel sad that I wasted so much of myself on him. I felt I was beautiful when I met him and now I feel like an old crumpled up paper bag, used and dirty. Not beautiful or desirable or worthy. We can change these self-loathing thoughts. Focus on the positive things you do all day. Make a list at night in bed. It gets better x

You are beautifu! I wish we could be friends in real life. We women are the ones who suffer in this world. Men have used us and think it's ok, they don't make them like my dad or grandpa anymore.

*HUGS*

The difference between men and women (not generalizing) - most women grieve and come out stronger and better people. men do reckless stuff without thinking and become somewhat harder and not necessarily better people. Take care, you will only come out stronger.

I just want God to send the man I'm supposed to marry. I'm sick of getting hurt. I give my all, and to men that don't always deserve it. This one I sure should have given the boot. But my fault.

I wish i left when my ex started being a jerk
It was like a light bulb was switched. I know
What was behind it, just did not see it clearly.

I kept hoping things would turn around, they
Only got worse. Once they start down that Path
its hopeless. He was emotionally checked Out
and his behaviors and actions showed it.

In the end i paid the price emotionally for staying
Too long in a bad relationship. Hopefully i will have
Learned my lessons and heal before dating again.
HUGS

Thank you for your honesty, I'm struggling also, reading the responses are everything I'd say to you in person. Men do act differently. We hurt today, they hurt when its dark and lonely at night when noone is looking. I think the other girls are the instant band aid and the look at me status. Women heal themselves, that's what makes us OK to be alone

I feel your pain, I was the man who broke his girls heart for reasons deeper than I even knew. Now I've started to come to terms with those fears I cry myself to sleep most nights because I lost the best thing that ever happened to me.
The lads all try and get me to drink or sleep around as its 'the norm' but some blokes don't do that I certainly can't I can't even look at another girl without feeling guilty.
Apparently time heals all and the grass is greener. I just hope we all find peace God knows I've shed enough tears the last few months! X

Sorry for your suffering and how you were treated. However I am a man who is suffering from a recent divorce and I am focusing on going through counseling to receive healing for myself without doing any of those destructive things you mentioned. It is not only women who have to deal with depression and suffering from bad relationships. Wishing you all the best.

I know everyone will keep saying it, but it does get better. Sometimes you take it an hour at a time. The important part is to keep asking yourself what you deserve. Do I deserve someone that treats me with consideration. Do you want someone that puts you above drugs and alcohol. That thinks you are the best thing that happened to him? You miss the familiar right now. It's scary being alone. I couldn't sleep in a bed for the first month - I slept on the couch. Every day tell yourself what you didn't like about the relationship. One day you won't hate him but you won't miss him either. Take care of yourself first.

I know your pain, I'm going through it right now. At first the pain was unbearable but as the days go by it gets easier & easier to deal with the pain. Cry when you need to, be mad when you need to. Try not to wallow in self pity. There will be days when you want to curl up in a ball & lay all day & that's ok. Just don't do it every day.
Talk to friends & family make sure you have a support system cause you're gonna need it. Seek professional help if need be. I've started opening up to people about it & Journaling about it & it makes me feel better. Take up a hobby & keep yourself busy. Better days are coming.