But would they be willing to talk about feelings? I doubt it...
Most men think it's a sign of weakness...

true true. that's why there's less of us here... and even some who are here stick with the beer fisting ego bravado and coldness

All right -let me amend that -


"Ok. A real answer. I've noticed the men who are here get into new relationships much quicker than the WOMEN. So, I'm guessing men are more likely to fill the hole (so to speak) of their lost relationship with another person, while women will spend more time trying to figure out what went wrong, so, they are here.

I tend to agree with Jo.

Lynne

I'm coming up on a year, Jo...and I can't even begin to imagine myself with another person...i'm a fucked up in the head dude...sometimes i regret ever meeting her...

hmmm Jo, the word that comes to mind is rebound. IMO a rebound is a recipe for emotional disaster. The enigma I'm trying to decode is when does one know that he/she is ready to move forward again?

When you figure that one out SD let me know.

I obviously took honesty for granted until I (painfully) realized it wasn't really there as promised.

At my second job tonight, a co-worker came up to me and stood there...
My second job has many dudes who are hardcore...
I work right in between Washington DC and Baltimore cities...
so anyway...
this guy came up to me and said..."i'm hurting real bad."
he was actually crying...something that I have not done in thirty years...
wow...it was hard looking at this tonight...
this dude has the potential to be a pro athlete...
i gave him a hug and used the DS advice I've learned here...
hopefully he gets through this ok...
this is not the first time that people at my work have come to me hurting...guys I mean...
good thing I've learned a lot here...
I think I'll just provide support...

thats great that you can provide the support. And that's even better that they felt comfortable enough to approach you. more men could benefit from being open and getting in touch with their fears and vulnerabilities

I tend to agree that a lot of the men here tend to move on, but there are always those exceptions and I also think that a lot of the women get involved here and keep it under the wire when it does not work out. I have known several women that left the site after trying several online relationships.

They felt that they were vulnerable here and left until they get their head together.
I have also known of predator type situations here and I am not talking about all the ones that are sometimes called predator when it was actually a mutual situation. I am talking true
stalker type , where they find out where you live and shit.
I had one of those and it is not fun.
I had an online relationship early on when I came here and it did not work out. I haven't tried it again. Long distance is so hard even if you meet and sparks fly, you are still hundreds of miles apart.

I have only heard of a couple of successful relationships here. When we forge something based on pain, it is hard to sustain that when we are both healed. We may want different things then.

Rman, it is difficult to think about a new relationship when we are mired still in the current one. Take this time to figure out what you want to do, then do that. Limbo land is tough.. Big hugs, Kimmee

Rman,

You ain't extracted physically, and I don't think you is extracted emotionally yet.

Usually the latter precedes the former.

Well no wonder I'm not meeting anyone on this dating site with that ratio.

I think the only generalization you can make is that men are less willing or able to reach out for help... the old "I can do it myself" thing. So I suppose that translates to, all the guys on DS have a lot more female hormones in them than the typical male. LOL

oh yeah and... for the record, it is precisely that ratio that has kept me on DS all this time. :)

HOLA!