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DS "Cliques"

Rman
Rman
I'm pretty sure "cliques" exist here on this board, as they exist in all parts of society. I have noticed that often support is only given to those who know each other, or who are part of a particular "clique." I know people are going to get pissed at me for saying this, but I just feel that there are many here who really need the support from EVERYONE. "Cliques" are just a part of society. People get comfortable with people for whom they know, and that is fine. I have gotten beautiful support from the people on this board. I just thought I'd remind people that this is a place to heal and to help. I am writing this to remind MYSELF that I should never overlook someone in need, just because I don't know them, or I'm not in their "clique." Just a thought...
FrankTheGreat
FrankTheGreat
WTF, P&Q? I don't fit any of your clique categories.

WTF.

*tosses table*

*storms out*
deleted_user
deleted_user
That's hot.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Buzzkill, Jaken. I had envisioned a bar scene. You just brought me to the cafeteria. Pffft.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am not sure what you mean by "cliques" (but I do commend you on your correct spelling). I have a regular group of friends. I left B and D for a little over a week and came back and only added my closest friends; I find from time to time that I have neglected someone from time to time and add them back. I have been quick to offer support to new people. But I have to say, people who post 99% BS and stupid crap (which I realized I was doing, and was why I left), I tune them out eventually. If this is happening to you, maybe you should ask yourself why.
deleted_user
deleted_user
although the reponses brought some humor to this thread.... i'm so unable to trust anyone right now after being hung out to dry, blindsided or whatever else describes being walked on out of the blue after 11 years... i post on here and i get wonderful words of comfort... i send and receive hugs of support... although there may be cliques within the overall group... i feel we are all one huge family of people going thru hell of breakup... maybe one day i will feel secure enough to trust again .. time will tell
deleted_user
deleted_user
I like everyone here. Some more than others, and that is because i've "known" them for a few years (oh my gosh it's been 2 years almost??) now and they are VERY special to me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
food fight! toss the twinkies and the gansitos!
deleted_user
deleted_user
But I really don't see many cliques here ;)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Is twinkie a euphemism for something? It should be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Uh? Frankie? I said "perverts".
veeachjay
veeachjay
I'm not in a "click" because I'm usually in the dark ;)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have some of the greatest friends here that will be my life~time friends... that's why I recently came back after a brief escape.

I tend to talk with them more than others and can take the reminder to give more support to those that have just arrived...

I say we can never have too many friends...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think (may be wrong) that most h ere are comfortable offering advice to those they can "relate" to or those they have formed a bond with. This probably has less to do with "cliques" and more to do with the comfort level of members.

I mean lets face it..most of us have experienced a "life changing event" and staying within the "comfort zone" is, well, "comfortable".

For me, I can relate to some but not others. My situation did not involve addictions, financial problems, mental disorders (bi polar disorder, etc.), children, meddling in laws or parents...so those topics are difficult for me to relate to sometimes.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't forget hot dudes, Road. We're people, too.
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deleted_user
HOLA PAPASITO!