Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Kevin5jm 10/11/2007

I am sooo frustrated...how do I keep going...all of the things I have had to deal with int he last 18 months, my kids coming clean about their sexually abusive biological father, me losing my job, my dad dying, I get diagnosed with Bi-polarism and then my wife wants a divorce, now I am pre-foreclosure because I can't afford my house anymore with my ex moved out......

Does anyone remember the last time you were truly happy? How did it feel to wake up in the morning and WANT to get out of bed and face the day...to WANT to hit it and can't wait to go go go!! Do you remember what it was like to be happy? I can't remember the last time I felt this way. The last time I was able to get up and face my life knowing all was good. I used to be that way. I loved doing what I was doing, I loved getting up int he morning and getting going...now I just want to cover back up and curl up and tell the world to bugger off!!! Do you remember having friends who were true and real friends that you knew would always be there for you no matter what? I can't...I just don't know which way to turn or what to do next...sorry all...just venting!! Thank you to all my DS friends...you have been amazing!!

deleted_user 10/11/2007

I remmeber being truly happy. I remeber the excitment of a new day. I remember being truly loved. And I know I'll find my way there again. And so will you. Let's just take it a step at a time!

FrmDeb2U 10/11/2007

No... I honestly don't remember.

deleted_user 10/11/2007

Vent away. You have a load of things on your plate. I'm so sorry for all of this.

Happy, what's that? I'm happy with the peace in my life. I have no clue as to what "happy" is. Not true happiness anyway. I don't know my life without attachments to ppl who break my heart, It's been 6 years since my finances were ok. I'm away from my family and friends but I can't see life back in my hometown.

I enjoy the sunlight on my face, the colors of spring a good dirty joke......the simpler things. "Happiness" somebody/ ANYBODY tell me what it is. Peace of mind is a great thing, though.

Kevin5jm 10/12/2007

deleted_user 10/12/2007

I remember... it was about 5min b4 my stbx called and said she wanted a divorce.

deleted_user 10/12/2007

Aw, Kev! I'm sorry!

deleted_user 10/12/2007

Yes I remember and you do too, it is just the pain that has made you go down to your knees for a while. It will pass and you will stand up again.

deleted_user 10/12/2007

June 3, 2006 the next day my husband told me he wanted to leave, but didn't leave till July, 17, 2007

deleted_user 10/12/2007

I meant July 17, 2006

deleted_user 10/12/2007

Actually yes! It was earlier this week, had nothing to do with another human being either. I sat on the step of my truck eating donuts and sipping coffee and looking out over the Continental Divide! I'm a delivery driver, the thought of driving my truck uup into the mountains would have scared the cream cheese out of me a year ago..to now sit at the TOP of a mountain, taking in the view on a sunny morning...was sheer delight!

deleted_user 10/12/2007

I've never felt that, always been living for someone else and not myself. Hang in there. You're going to get better. I am.

deleted_user 10/12/2007

Have patience my friend. You have been traumatized in so many ways. Your support system has been seriously compromised. You must rebuild the rug you are standing on. Look around you for those who will and can support you emotionally. Then ask for help and lean on them. Recognize that being bipolar is a challenge in and of itself. The swings can ge very hard. Focus on where you are in the ups and downs so you can make adjustments to compenstate. Find your fight. You can do this it's hard but you already have defined a goal. YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY. Little steps its doable. Reach back to a time when you were happy and alone. Reconnect with those things. You will find it.

deleted_user 10/13/2007

bump for you my friend....you know my thoughts!!

deleted_user 10/13/2007

Yes I remember and I know it is worth fighting for, so I get up every day and make it the best that I can for me and my kids and I pat myself on the back for it. It is hard, but you can get through this. The things that have already happened you can't change (you will need to heal from the hurts before when you are ready). Focus now on the problems at hand and if there is no ideal solution make a plan for yourself so you know where you are going. If you need to move to a less expensive place get online and find one, any avenues for financial help try them, open yourself up to the possibility that all of this pain in your life is for a greater appreciation for the true happiness in your future. I am sure it is very difficult and not knowing what will happen next makes it worse. Make a plan and then move forward the best you can with that plan. Venting is what DS is all about too. Make sure you are on meds for bipolar because it will make things even worse than they really are (my Mom is bipolar too). One problem and one day at a time. Hang in there.

deleted_user 10/13/2007

I do remember the last time I was happy. The tough part for me is that i think about it too much! I put too much focus on the fact that I was happiest when I had a wife and family. I think the hardest thing is to find happiness out there in yourself. Wouldnt it be wonderful to be truly happy with yourself and nothing else? You wouldnt need other people to "help" you feel happy.

Problem is - true happiness is only achieved when it is shared!

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