Maybe they do, maybe they don't.

The most important thing is how you feel. Can you move forward without caring how they feel? Obviously he didn't care about your feelings or there is a great possibility that this would not have happened. Would you take him back knowing he didn't care about you? Children, commitment, love...none of this mattered.

If you are only bothered by whether or not he regrets his actions...I would say you are in a pretty decent place to move on without him. Perhaps focusing on your children and making you happy would be a good thing:)

oh...from my experience, they only regret their actions when their new relationship falls apart. While it is good, they could care less.

Good luck and Hugs!

Yeah, they only regret it if they get hurt. Very selfish. He's shown you who he is; believe him. What a jerk!

I believe they do at some point. But as you can see they are selfish so they would never let us know that they have regret. They will simply move on to their next victim. So sad but at this point I really do not care if he has regrets and he deserves them. Regret is one thing you can't get rid of...

They usually have to admit they did something wrong to regret it.. And they usually rationalize their actions before they do them to make themselves feel more at ease about doing it in the first place. So, rarely do they regret it.

But like BlueKnight said, the most important thing is how you feel. You may feel like obsessing over this question of if he regrets it or not, but it's almost funny how the answer won't make you feel any different.

I used to think about this all the time. At one point, he did tell our son that he regretted some decisions he made, but he never made any changes to right the wrongs he did. He just kept going in the opposite direction.

So to answer your request, I think, yes, they can regret it inside themselves, but they are too selfish to admit it or change it. Someone with true regret you would know right off the bat.

Same with my STBX - he tells the kids I put up with a lot and he was a bad husband/father, but has he done anything to change his ways? No.

I often wonder if my husband regrets all hes done to me and our family...but its doubtful because they tend to justify what theyve been doing. They are happy, they want their own way, their own life. In my case that means he has his happy life, but that life does not include a wife or children. I truly hope one day they do realize, they do regret. But their new found happiness has to fade a bit first in my opinion. Very sad, and selfish.

No they don't regret it because in their universe it is all about them.

No, they don't ever think of anything while under the euphoria of a new love. Think of a kid with a new toy. Sooner or later the "new toy" will be stale or something wrong with "it". I guess that's when they start to think what they'd done. Especially if they have kids who don't want to know about them by then. These things always catches up with them - eventually.

Tessa and Blue, amen and well said. Cheryt, I agree, mine is that way too. No REMORSE, but yes to REGRET. See the difference?

I have heard that some regret it but it is often years down the road

In my case I don't think he regrets it at all...5 wives...5 divorces caused by leaving each one of them for another woman. Regret is the last thing he feels....arrogance yes!!!

I honestly believe that my husband has NO IDEA what he has done to his family. For some reason he is blind to his faults and it must be someone elses fault!

I often wish I would hear her say, I messed up. I'm not sure why I want to hear this. I guess I want some kind of remorse for all the pain and termoil this has caused. If it wasn't for my children I wouldn't have to deal with the drama and pain. I'm stuck because she is depressed, and I'm still trying to shelter the kids, by trying to support and encourage her. I'm exhausted.

We did have some issues but nothing that couldnt be fixed. We have a 3 year old and twins that are 1 and half. He was never hands on with my son and I prob shouldnt have gotten pregnant with the twins but I have no regrets about them. This other girl has 2 kids of her own. He went down to mexico and flashed it like he had alot of money. I also just found out he asked her to marry him before he came back. SO one week with her and a week later has filed for divorce from me.....hes just done too much