Ahh but would all persons be out of debt?

I'm with you Rman. Being poor but still being in love and wanting to with that person is more to me than being poor.

If the only option you see to solve financial issues in a relationship with someone is by divorce, then I'm sorry, you don't love them, go find someone you do love.

OH Sanct put it very well. If it's money as a valid reason to get divorced, then there is no love.

I would have been happy had my husband just gotten a job, doesn't matter how much he makes, as long as he brought home a paycheck and contributed. It's everyone chipping in to make a marriage work.

If one brings and the other doesn't it makes you feel as if they don't think your important enough to go out and work hard for your family.

So, financial issues, can be worked on. Either get a job or stop spending over your means. LOL! Wait i forgot this is America.

Rman - you pose a good question. My ex didn't work for over l4 years, but that's not why I left him. I left him because he is a narcisstic asshole.

Lynne

LYNNE-LOL you always manage to make me laugh.

I wish I could think like that! LOL!

Mad - I'm glad I gave you a chuckle!

Lynne

well a divorce caused me to have financial issues.

depends on how those issues are handled. Short-term, divorce is quite costly and could actually make the situation seem worse. Long-term, if things are handled correctly, it could be a life-saving move.

My ex thought cheating and setting up a new life with the world's biggest fertilizer salesman was her ticket to financial bliss. Of course it turns out the finances thing was just one of many justifications used instead of just saying "I'm banging someone else. Several someone else's actually."

lynne you supported that ahole for 14 years AND cooked him yummy foods?

that guy was one lucky bastard... his loss!!

dadwithhope.. i love ur avi.. the saying reminds me of someone...

thanks, Burt is the sh*t.

Not at all.

Finances start the ball rolling. In my case, my wasband wanted bigger and better top of the line everything, to show how imortant he was and my needs were.....less complex.

He wanted the big screen tv, my outlook was that we had a tv, I'd rather take the kids away for the weekend.

It created resentment because I spent our "extra" money on choreography for my daughter, or silliness with our son and he wanted to impress the world.

I still don't care much about stuff and pour bags of money on my kids. Makes me happy.

Jenny-yes. I was also the gardener, the CPA, the social director, the interior decorator - you name it! I guess I'm just a slow learner.

Lynne