I feel like there is a catalyst for every break-up. For me it was freakin' vegetables

(((rman)))

my divorce was the result of him lying about EVERYTHING....and money was also a factor, he refused to get a job, wouldn't keep up on the house or anything, while I was working 10 hour days...then he would steal my debit card and go spend money and overdraft the bank account...

and money was kind of the last straw with my ex fiance too....he decided to loan out all the money we had in our account, leaving us with nothing for possibly an entire week...and the money he loaned out was for frivilous stuff at that...so, I was pissed, and he got pissed at me for being pissed...started calling me all kinds of names, and I decided it was time to just end things even though that wasn't really what I wanted...but, I tried to be responsible and while he appreciated that most of the time, other times it just pissed him off, and I didn't feel like he was happy in the relationship anymore...so, it ended....money issues can really exacerbate an already rocky situation...

I agree with DAB.
And onions.....stink.......the more you peel, the more they smell.

no financial reasons are not a valid reason yo u can work on that.

"Financial reasons" really comes done to values - and, yes, widely different values and priorities are valid reasons to divorce.

My children's father thinks success, ie: money, is God - I would have gladly lived simply and been happy to have my husband around - instead, I had lots of "stuff" and "security" - but no emotional wealth or security, which was more valuable to me. He was always gone, and when he wasn't, he was thinking about work, his careers (yes, plural) and the future. We would always have time together "tomorrow".

Well, 24 years later and he is still planning for the future. He has lots and lots of money; but no personal life. He's missed more of the kid's birthdays than he made, he missed Silas' graduation; he's missed so much. But he feels successful.

That lifestyle didn't work for me.

NO

No.

If it can't be worked out...then I say yes.
My ex had champagne taste and tap water money.
He is broke and in debt over his eyelashes. Had I'd stayed, I would be out on the streets a month after anything would happen to him ( he had a very high risk job....went to the er with him several times). He left I and our kids with no security ever....it was always about buying more toys while we couldn't even afford to pay for basics. I was afraid of having nothing in our old age and how the abuse may get worse than it already was.
I left and am 1000 times better financially, health and emotional wise. He is in the shitter so to speak and I give him a year before he loses his house and living with relatives. Sad, very sad!
Money issues tends to be a big reason for divorce according to my lawyer.

Money issues are almost never about money.

Figure out the underlying issue and you can figure out whether or not it's workable.

Sometimes, it just isn't.

People get divorced for all sorts of reasons as we know....is it valid...who's to say. It's a reason for the person leaving and that all that matters. I remember hearing in the vows for richer or for poorer....for me...assuming it's not an extreme case I'd say no not a valid reason for me...but again that's me and if it's a reason for the person leaving well not much I can do about that can I.

What about leaving in order to make a financial situation better?

I don't understand how it would, rman

If youre in a loving relationship you work things out together, there are other options, divorce or seperation would not be an option.

If there is anything other than just financial then thats debatable, but just financial? no

If it could get a person out of debt, then it would be positive.

Jo said: "Money issues are almost never about money. "

That is 100% correct.