Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Last January everything in my life was right. I was in supervision where I was working and I was still with my ex.
From May and into June I watched most of what I called success go away. I lost my promotion and was sent back to the road. At the same time I was having horrible health issues and my ex left me.
In November of this year I was still going through the whole divorce thing. I was also having more troubles at work. I had never been popular with my last employer and they had been treating me wrongly since I had been there. I was able to deal with it for 7 years.
By the end of November my health was approaching a red zone. I have already had a heart attack and I have a stint. My blood pressure, even though I was taking blood pressure medicine, was shooting up to 220 of 110 at times. My doctor said that I had to do something or I would have another heart attack or something else.
Finally, I decided that I had enough of where I was living, being in the same area as my ex, and I had enough of my work place. My health was important and more important than the other things. I decided to so something drastic.
I moved out of where I was living (I had already moved two times that year because my ex got the house). I resigned from my job and moved in with my parents.
I had no idea how bad the job market was until I started looking for a job. I am still looking and hope that I find something soon. I can hold out for a while longer. The divorce is finished and I am legally divorced now.
I now wonder if I did the right thing by leaving all of that stress behind and moving out of the area, trying to close that chapter in my life. My health is back and I am in good shape again. I have to admit that I feel much better and it is nice not to worry about things now.
Did I do the right thing? Will I have to face the other problems I left behind or will they stay back in my past? These are my only worries now.
From May and into June I watched most of what I called success go away. I lost my promotion and was sent back to the road. At the same time I was having horrible health issues and my ex left me.
In November of this year I was still going through the whole divorce thing. I was also having more troubles at work. I had never been popular with my last employer and they had been treating me wrongly since I had been there. I was able to deal with it for 7 years.
By the end of November my health was approaching a red zone. I have already had a heart attack and I have a stint. My blood pressure, even though I was taking blood pressure medicine, was shooting up to 220 of 110 at times. My doctor said that I had to do something or I would have another heart attack or something else.
Finally, I decided that I had enough of where I was living, being in the same area as my ex, and I had enough of my work place. My health was important and more important than the other things. I decided to so something drastic.
I moved out of where I was living (I had already moved two times that year because my ex got the house). I resigned from my job and moved in with my parents.
I had no idea how bad the job market was until I started looking for a job. I am still looking and hope that I find something soon. I can hold out for a while longer. The divorce is finished and I am legally divorced now.
I now wonder if I did the right thing by leaving all of that stress behind and moving out of the area, trying to close that chapter in my life. My health is back and I am in good shape again. I have to admit that I feel much better and it is nice not to worry about things now.
Did I do the right thing? Will I have to face the other problems I left behind or will they stay back in my past? These are my only worries now.
Would you rather be unemployed and able to take care of your health, or dead because you had another heart attack?
Had you not done it. I might not be reading your post right now guy.
I think you did the right thing for your health!
Being unemployed isn't so bad, but this economy is rough. It is hard to find anything. I have litterly sent out hundreds of applications with no responses. Oh well, something is bound to come up.
I think you just need to live your life day-to-day for a while. Stop all this pondering about where your life is headed or if you made the right decision. Take the gifts you get each day and enjoy them.
Just my take on this. Hugs to you.
Ever think of being a harbor master?
Not only do I think you made the right decision, but I do not think there was a decision to make at all.
What you did was a no brainer to me.
Unemployment or death? Simple
But you did what you felt was right for you and your health. And if your health is better, as it sounds like it is, then you did the right thing. I agree with soon, unemployed and healthy is better than dead any day!
"Did I do the right thing?
Will I have to face the other problems I left behind or will they stay back in my past?"
What's done is done. Learn from it and more forward.
You say...
"My health is back and I am in good shape again. I have to admit that I feel much better and it is nice not to worry about things now."
I think you answered your questions and the fear of our unknown future is causing you to question yourself.
Hugs Heave
I regrouped, found resources, went back to school and my children were my incentive and they were happy because we learned to be happy about things that were not material; rahter, whenever we saw a rainbow we would refjoice and simple glimpses of nature's beauty.
Now, I own my own home which was fruit of MY labor, I help my daughter with her college, just go my middle son in college and eventually, I will reap from that labor of love.
Love yourself and cultivate your garden as we only have one life to live and it shouldn't be wasted on dwelling of the what ifs and the what nots.
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