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I had a first date with this girl. It went really well and there was initial chemistry. We talk in the phone and chat back and forth for a few weeks and it is really hard to get something set up for a date with her again even though she professes that she wants to go out again.
Second date finally happens. We go to a movie. Her body language during the movie says not interested to me. She sits in the opposite corner of her chair with crossed arms during the movie. When the date is over she says that she is in a hurry to get home because her child is being babysat by her mother and her mother might get angry if she doesn't get home soon. She gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. She says that she wants to go out again but she doesn't know when she will be able to.
For the next week we chat back and forth and text back and forth. On Wed. she tells me that she is going to be really busy for the next month or so because she is now working two jobs, her family is working on the house because they are moving and she needs to find an apartment, and because of her son. I told her that this was cool and I was patient.
I have sent her a few text messages since and no response. I haven't heard from her since then. She is still going on a dating site, the one that I met her on, and she is on there regularly.
This brings me to my point....If you aren't interested be up front and honest. Don't say that you are and then just quit talking to someone and not responding back. Don't waste my time if you are going to say one thing and do something else.
I fucking hate dating because of the stupid games that people play these days. I wish I could find someone else like me that is upfront and no bullshit. Say what you mean and mean what you say. It is what it is and if it isn't, say so.
Just now she comments on my facebook status and texts me. I am lost when it comes to this one.
Second date finally happens. We go to a movie. Her body language during the movie says not interested to me. She sits in the opposite corner of her chair with crossed arms during the movie. When the date is over she says that she is in a hurry to get home because her child is being babysat by her mother and her mother might get angry if she doesn't get home soon. She gives me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. She says that she wants to go out again but she doesn't know when she will be able to.
For the next week we chat back and forth and text back and forth. On Wed. she tells me that she is going to be really busy for the next month or so because she is now working two jobs, her family is working on the house because they are moving and she needs to find an apartment, and because of her son. I told her that this was cool and I was patient.
I have sent her a few text messages since and no response. I haven't heard from her since then. She is still going on a dating site, the one that I met her on, and she is on there regularly.
This brings me to my point....If you aren't interested be up front and honest. Don't say that you are and then just quit talking to someone and not responding back. Don't waste my time if you are going to say one thing and do something else.
I fucking hate dating because of the stupid games that people play these days. I wish I could find someone else like me that is upfront and no bullshit. Say what you mean and mean what you say. It is what it is and if it isn't, say so.
Just now she comments on my facebook status and texts me. I am lost when it comes to this one.
Lynne
I know the feeling.
I think about it, but I honestly have about ONE free night a month.
And I just really fear getting close to someone, introducing them to my kids, the kids getting attatched and then it all falling apart.
Oh well, perhaps I'll be able to date when the kids are all grown up.
She sounds like she has too much going on. That's a lot to handle and date.
Plus she may not be that into you. That's not your fault. Everybody has an idea in their heads of what they are looking for, and maybe you don't fit her list. No big deal, just move on to the next person.
I'm with patti...I don't have much free time, so it's not really fair to try to squeeze a relationship in there as well. I'll date again eventually, but it's going to be a while!