, remember that it is he that messed you up
Then mentally pump ice water through your veins
With no emotion see him for who he is now

Sign and leave him behind

Is this the final court date? Hope you have everything with the house and assets all covered! Don't let him take advantage of you while you are still vulnerable!

It will be ok...in fact one day it will be better than ok.

He can't provide you comfort...he is the one that did this.

"The Notebook"and another older one "For Love of the Game"... Wouldn't we all, but only in the movies does the knight ride in and have a happily ever after. Think the only true unconditional love is to your children. Even at that I told mine that even that has limits and needs to feel appreciation and respect.
I am with you, and even others are still in shock and "never saw this coming" but I am determined to take care of me and do it without a man. Which is another thing that bothered hiim, I never let him take care of me. I felt it was a partnership and I wanted to pull my own weight in our relationship. Good thing I did, without financial stability this would have sent me over the edge.
I feel my dream ended with the "I'm not in love with you" and sealed up when I saw all the texting records. Held on hoping it wasn't true. I still have feelings for him, but know that what I thought would or could be is over. Good luck to you. Hugs and be strong.

WOW Refurb - I feel you from your words! Strong! I hope I can do as you say. I don't think I will have to see him but like I said before I want to in some ways because I miss him, want a goodbye so closure.... I know so f;d up. On the other hand I don't want to because I might fall part. Or go crazy and say things and make a scene!

ALD - It is his motion/mediation so I don't think this the final.
I have requested the house be sold and to get half of the profit. I hope I get that but the court/lawyers do not care that I don't want him here with OW/family.....
I know he isn't the one to give my comfort but......

loosingthebattle - sorry for you pains....

Thanks everyone for your words!!

good luck tomorrow I will be thinking of you!

Thanks Pink!

Good luck...let us know how it goes.

As far as courts/lawyers you are correct...they don't care about the other woman. You need a different spin on things. You are not requesting your half because of emotion but because you are entitled to half! If you bought the house together and it is in both of your names I would be shocked if you walked away with nothing!

And as far as a goodbye/closure...don't expect that from him. I have been on this board for almost two years and never seen a single person who received closure from the one that hurt them in the first place.

My thoughts are with you today. Sending strength your way!

Thoughts with you today as you have to do this thing
Hugs to you

One day to get through
and this will be a marker in a journey to heal

Holding your hand

You can do this! I'm with refurb!

Hope things went well for you today

My meeting is mediation today as well. Just know you are not alone and lots of us in this same battle. Good luck to us both today. We've already split most assets but what worries me is the parenting plan.I am co-dependent and have spent time focusing on things for my H and our kids. Have been taking time and doing some things for me, but not sure what I will do without any kids to take care of for more than a couple of days.
Drink that extra cup of coffee and tell yourself "I can do this"

Thanks everyone for you word of comfort and encouragement!
But can you believe it! After setting there for 1 and half. My lawyer tells me that. His lawyer wasn't sure why he wasn't there but then said that she didn't notify him. What the hell!

So now I wait 2 weeks before we have court. The first court date my lawyer emailed me the night before giving me less then 24 hours so we postponed that one. Now this time his lawyer supposedly didn't notify him. aarrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh

Loosingthebattle - hope things went well for you today

Take care all

he didn't show up to court???!!!

I know Pink. I was what the F! My lawyer said to me at first that she (his lawyer) wasn't sure why but then said she didn't notify him!

I think the WORST part is I know all last night you probably couldn't sleep and had so much anxiety over this and wondering how this would all go. Now it just is going to be all something you do all over again and I know what alone is stressful. Don't worry this wont go on forever there will be a resolution and you will begin to move past this. Take the night to watch something you really enjoy and eat some ice cream !! =)