awww sweet of you Pink! Yes so true about the stressfulness of the whole thing then it was all wasted! I took off work this so I will need to take another day off!

Ugh...how disappointing and stressful for you!!

Stay strong and don't let this set you back!

Keep us updated to when your next court date is!

my guess, he didnt show and she is covering for him by saying she didn't tell him. I think she would have remembered telling him not to mention she probably called him while she was sitting there for the hour and a half as well.

either way, it sucks you have to wait again. But dont forget this happened. keep it in the back of your mind incase you need it.

at least know you can let some of the anxiety go for tonight as you have some time before the court date.

I think so too Chitownbear--argh - thank you. Take care.

Mine did, but we aren't using lawyers. I am not going to fight I did get our house, which after him saying I forced him into it and my parents did help with the down payment figured it was right. But now being seen by my kids as I'm taking everything. Which says he explained to our son.
Did throw out today that he has found a place he wants to buy, but wants to make sure it is OK and I won't go after it. I told him do what he needs to do.
Didnt get to parenting plan so will need to go back again. Talked for a bit after to give him his mail. He got angry after saying how he cares for me and I told him if he cared for me or wanted to he would still be there. Said he was done with the conversation and if I can't see how much he cares for me by now. But I told him that is reality.
Still defending our daughters behavior to go use or take things that arent hers and without asking. He doesn't have those problems because he talks to them. Well I do to, but apparently have a listening issue with me. They say they are fine and I've been cutting them slack as to this is how they are coping. But I guess I need to quit making excuses for their behavior and what happens happens. Really don't want to lose them, but they need to know this type of behavior is not acceptable.
Sorry you didn't get any closer today. We can't finalize before judge till June

Loo - I am glad some things got settled but looks like you have plenty more to get through.

Still have the hardest part to go, the littlest boy. I have a work trip that I leave early for tomorrow and have now for 13 yrs. So our son wanted to stay instead of going with me. He had a function tonight that I had no idea of and both boys came home and I fed them dinner. Said Dad was at meeting. I sent a couple of texts only to get no reply and around 9 he was ready and went to bed. Finally got a text that he was on his way. Didn't get here until after 10 to pick him up, I suggested leaving him in bed and getting him in the morning. I certainly hope this isn't what it will be like. Just right now he is really angry and doesnt want to talk to me. Claiming I didn't communicate with him, but I sent him text about my trip on the 9th and after 12 yrs already for him not to know. Just shows how much interest and care he took for me and my job duties.
Thanks and good luck to you, I haven't scheduled for round 2 yet.

its not about his interest or what he knows, I am sure he didn't forget. Its about he now is inconvenienced because of it. He was "out" last night and didn't want to come pick up the boys when he needed to and he directed that anger towards you. He could have come in the morning, BUT, that would have inconvenienced him as well having to get up early to get them.

So, its not about you perse. Don't take on his b.s. You continue to inform, meet your obligations with him and so on. If you do that then you walk knowing you did all you could so not to cause any angst so the angst he is feeling is of his own.

Safe travels.

I sent my stbx an email about not showing for the court day. He said he wasn't aware of a court date until reading my email and he talked to his lawyer earlier and she didn't mention it. What???

He said, "Lawyers are very overpaid for the quality of service they render, in my opinion." Not sure but there is something here in these words that offend me for some reason.

"Think we can figure it out ourselves and tell them to file what we want, or do we keep letting them decide?" Does this sound pissy or is it just me

I sent him my request and of course he hasn't replied. ugh!!! And to think I still wanting away to get back together. I am pitiful! I just don't want to look at my future without him/us.....

You sent him an email listing what you want in the divorce? He could be playing you. Communications like that should go through your lawyer. Knowing your bottom line gives him a leg up in negotiations. Neither he nor his attorney sound very trustworthy. Although you miss him, you deserve a future with someone honorable.Hang in there.

O no. I was wondering about that after I sent it. He had sent a list of what he wanted from the house that I received from my lawyer. I sent a reply to this back to my lawyer and it was sent on to his lawyer. So the list I sent was mostly what I had stated already but hell I don't know. I hope I didn't screw things up even more. Thanks Missy.