T is my soon to be ex. No children involved.

I'm going to present my list this weekend I guess I sat on it due to not wanting to cause any waves but things do need to get done!

How long do you think you'll be cohabiting together? I can't even wrap my head around that. My ex lived together for 2 weeks, which gave him time to find a place, buy furniture and get packed. It was such a horrible time in my life. We still loved each other (still do) so while it was incredibly painful I found myself helping him. He wanted my opinion on couches and end tables. We cherished and made the last 2 weeks much more painful than they needed to be.

Him leaving was a necessary step in my process. I was still in denial and hoping we'd get back but I'm moving past that phase now. Your healing really won't begin until he is gone and you can start to properly process. It's a long journey and you have to do the best you can and if your circumstances force him to be there, try everything to keep your sanity.

My advice - exhaust all other options and if he needs to stay put as much space and distance between the two of you. I know, there is so much history and love there - when you break up, where does the love go? It's the most tragic thing I've ever experienced but if I had to do it again I would do it much differently to spare my heart and my mental wellness. Good luck and please keep us posted on your progress. HUGS!

-TM

Thank you so much for your advice and kind words. I'm such a mess right now I don't even know what to do with myself.

i too am under the same roof. by the end we will all be able to take on the world without batting an eye.

Remember, it's temporary. Once the divorce is final, there won't be anymore sharing a space with this person. Maybe distract yourself with plans of how you want your life once the divorce is final. Make plans. Dream. You will be starting with a clean slate. Focus on making it beautiful. Hasn't this person taken enough from you already? Don't let them have anymore. Look ahead at all the wonderful things coming and that will be available to you. It's not worth your physical or mental health to give them any more of your emotions. They have moved on. Isn't it time you showed yourself the love and care you deserve. It has to start with you. Heal. Get healthy again, then create a life you love. Don't give up. You are strong enough to live thru what you have, you can make it to this new life you want and deserve. There are people out there that will love you and who do care about you.

I am going through the same thing. Broke up after 3 years and have to live together until I can find a job somewhere else. It has been devastating and torturous. My friends have been trying to help but at the end of the day I still have to return to the home we built together. He is already seeing someone else and sleeps out most nights so I am in the house alone most of the time. You would think that would make it easier but I think it actually makes it worse. I hope everything works out for you!

Oh no I am so sorry that has to be so hard to deal with!!!!!! Sending you love and light and strength!!

Thank you everyone for your encouragement and kind words