Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Ok...so you guys wanna hear a ridiculously tragic, sad and empowering story.. Here goes. I'm 58 (woman), met my first husband at the age of 15 and married him 6 years later. Helped put him through school. We were married 6 years with no children. We were too busy chasing the american ie; money, travel, homes. Met my second husband 3 weeks after my divorce. Oh, forgot to mention I've never really dated (two blind ones). My second marriage produced 3 wonderful children. During our 32 years together we traveled throughout the country in full time Christian ministry, I homeschooled our children and supported him totally while his dream was being fulfilled in ministry and mine was being fulfilled as a fulltime supportive wife and at home mom. Eight years ago we started our church on the back porch of our home and eventually the congregation grew to have it's own building. Here comes the sad and tragic part. Last November my husband said he wanted to separate stating irreconcilable differences, (differences in ministry focus), him church and me children and grandchildren. Thought it would be ok to spend my later years as a grandma and slow down a bit. So guess what...courts ruled NO SPOUSAL MAINTENANCE...Because I didn't go after the churches assets and after my husband deducted his housing allowance, poor poor fellow wouldn't have much coming in. So now after 30 years of marriage, supporting him in ministry, working part time outside the home, teaching, preaching, counseling and doing all the secretarial work in the church, I have nothing. I'm having to move in with my children, look for fulltime work at 58 in this economy and acquire medical insurance through the state . Oh, and there is no retirement. By the way, he is still pastoring. So, here is the empowering part. I WILL MAKE IT....ON MY OWN...WITH GODS HELP. Never again will a man define me...Shame on me.
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
You will make it! Be proud of your accomplisments as I read many here. Hold your head up high because you've done things for the community that I've never done.
Walk tall, walk with Faith and live out your life free of someone who is not worthy of spreading God's word.
2nd wife...as I finished my Masters Degree, her dream was to finish college but barely knew english, and couldn't get into school in her area...wrote her entrance letter, tutored her, helped her take exams (online courses), SHE...took me for all I had...and now she is a Director of Accounting for a major university in the Southeast...
I have come to terms with all of that...I was THEIR major contributor whether they want to believe it or not, and that was just who I am, and a blessing that god put's that love and giving in my heart, so *hugs* and remember that for yourself :)
And a competent lawyer could not make the case that you were entitled to the assets your ex husband enjoys?
Wow.
Really wish I had something substantive to say here, but this just feels like justice wasn't done at all. Have you considered consulting with another attorney about this?
Your story isn't an exception. It just adds to the piles of stories from people who did everything above the board and still got left holding the bag. And whats worse is the bag has garbage in it. As a fellow Chistian I know that there is a big plan in all this for you. You don't see it yet, but it will be revealed in time.
You live with your children? Maybe that's were you are needed. You will be in my prayers.
It sucks girlie but you can do it. Age is just a number. The economey sucks but you have alot you can put on your resume.
Never depend on a man always depend upon yourself.
office since it's inception, much to my chagrin. Concerning it being a business and Arizona being a community property state, I was entitled to half of the churches assets. The problem for me was I couldn't bring myself to go for those assets. I felt my issue was with him. I never thought that the courts would rule on issues other than the facts. Attorneys have advised me that an appeal is possible based on my husband perjuring himself on the stand but since I've has my day in court, it may not change the outcome. I think the hardest thing for me in all this is the retirement years that are now robbed from me to spent with my children and grandchildren. After all, love of family and time spent with them is priceless. His loss for sure Thanks for the encouragement from all of you. God bless..
Take good care of yourself.
I think irreconciable differences is the stupidest excuse for a divorce. :(
Glad to hear that your family can help you out during this time. I'll pray that God will provide you a job, and a sense of peace as you walk forward.