hello. So I have been with my husband for almost 5 years but been with him for about 10 years. It has been a huge roller coaster. Last night I caught him texting one of his female friends about he hates our marriage and is completely unhappy. That isn't the part that hurts. But rather he proceeds to tell her that he has always liked and tried to see if she felt the same way. In the end a lot of issues stem from his actions. This is not the first time he has done this, actually he has physically cheated on me as well. We have a child and I've been trying to make it work. But ultimately I've just given up. We started very young and it has been his inability to fully grow up, respect me and basically completely not being able to settle down that has destroyed our marriage. I just don't understand how he thinks picking and choosing to work on the marriage to tend to my needs was going to strengthen the marriage. He expects me to meet his needs completely but for me I have to just take what he gives. I know this has to do with immaturity. I know I am distant but it's because I just can't treat someone how they want to be treated when I feel used and abused. Yet he just doesn't see it that way. He does one good things and it's like omg I need to reward it. But it's soooo frustrating that he can complain to someone else and disrespect me like this (amidst everything I have never been unfaithful) I confronted him and his response was oh if you want to take it like that then whatever... I know he is mad he got caught. I didn't fight I even told him it's okay to feel unhappy , he should have told me so we could discuss ending the marriage but it's like he wants to go around feeling this way to legimize his disrespectful behavior. Today I stayed home to cry to sleep to mourn the end of my 15 year relationship. Thank you for letting me vent.