Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Seriously. I am just defeated at this point. I have tried this whole dating thing and it sucks...really really sucks.
Either I am attracted to them but they aren't attracted to me or they are attracted to me and I am not attracted to them. Then there is always that lame ass excuse that people come up with when they don't want to hang out again. Seriously people, just be friggin' honest, it is so much easier in the end.
Yes, I am really fustrated. I posted in another thread that my last prospect that I had that seemed really interesting is not interested in me because I got the big blow off yesterday. She is just too busy to hang out.
If anyone is familiar, this was the girl that had lived on a sailboat and said that she would like to sail around the world. Guess that dream isn't a big priority because I have the skills, knowledge, and know-how to do that kind of thing (not to mention a good cruising boat for her to learn the ropes on, as it were).
I refuse to settle, I refuse to just take the first thing that comes along, but damn it gets lonely at times. When you are talking to yourself and no body's home it is really bad. LOL. Just kidding, but seriously, spending these large amounts of time by myself makes me realize how cool it would be to have a chick that would enjoy sharing this with me.
I have met a few older guys that are living on their boats, have no wives, few friends, and I worry that this is my future. Seriously, I fit in right now but I am 30 years younger. ACK!!!!!!!
Either I am attracted to them but they aren't attracted to me or they are attracted to me and I am not attracted to them. Then there is always that lame ass excuse that people come up with when they don't want to hang out again. Seriously people, just be friggin' honest, it is so much easier in the end.
Yes, I am really fustrated. I posted in another thread that my last prospect that I had that seemed really interesting is not interested in me because I got the big blow off yesterday. She is just too busy to hang out.
If anyone is familiar, this was the girl that had lived on a sailboat and said that she would like to sail around the world. Guess that dream isn't a big priority because I have the skills, knowledge, and know-how to do that kind of thing (not to mention a good cruising boat for her to learn the ropes on, as it were).
I refuse to settle, I refuse to just take the first thing that comes along, but damn it gets lonely at times. When you are talking to yourself and no body's home it is really bad. LOL. Just kidding, but seriously, spending these large amounts of time by myself makes me realize how cool it would be to have a chick that would enjoy sharing this with me.
I have met a few older guys that are living on their boats, have no wives, few friends, and I worry that this is my future. Seriously, I fit in right now but I am 30 years younger. ACK!!!!!!!
the freedom of sailing, it must be amazing
I think you need to focus on developing your life: join a sailing club, give lessons, take yoga, play on an inter-mural softball team, etc. Be satisfied on your own, and I bet someone comes along.
And believe me, I have been rejected, but there are other fish in the sea.
Stop rushing things, and just chill the fuck out.
Spend that and you get a year membership I think.
See, basic economics.
Hope that makes you feel better.
Again Brother Tom has put it into prospective, finding someone to share your life is just the icing. You are doing what most of us wish we could, to live our dreams! In your case sailing.
Me? I had a job that had me in tears every FUKKING day, came home to a man that ignored me every FUKKING day.
He's gone to listen to his own demons and I was laid off. My health improved immensely, am off all my "keep her going" meds, and DS has kicked me in the butt to continue what I've always wanted to do....write.
Am I lonely? Yes. Am I alone? No. Do I wish I could wake up to a man's big hairy leg thrown over my hip, or have someone kiss me on his way to work, or get a phone call that ends with "I love you".....of course I do.
But I wouldn't trade this ME time for any of that.
........."Babe - all I know is what I see -
The couples cling and claw
And drown in love's debris.
You say we'll soar like two birds through the clouds,
But soon you'll cage me on your shelf -
I'll never learn to be just me first
By myself..........."
Learn to be YOU first and then WE will come along.
So my solution, over a month ago, was to bag it, and it was a good solution for me. I would rather be lonely than go through this stuff. Also, I agree with the idea of "live your life, don't worry about it (ok, try not to), and let things happen the way they're meant to." In my case, for now, what is "meant to happen" is me being alone. But such is life. I know I need to be content in my life in order for a new relationship to really work. I can't expect a relationship to fill in my holes... I hope that when I have one, she will complement me and I her, but I have never been a "relationship junkie" like some friends - not being able to live alone, so they settle for anything.
Anyway, sorry for rambling. I am kinda bummed about work today (asshole boss, stressful, over worked, dread coming in... fun stuff!!). I had a 4 day long weekend with my kids and it was wonderful. Now coming back to this is... BLECH. Oh well - thanks again Heave, and everyone.
When will I feel better with the divorce process?
-standard answer- in time
When will I meet someone special?
-standard answer- in time
When will I die?
-standard answer - in time.
Rolling stones "Time waits for no man, no favors has he, time waits for no man, and he won't wait for me."