If you think you have not be judged at one point or another your not being real with yourself.

People do it all the time. At some point or another I have done it myself. I'm not prefect and other know that. I like my dark side sometimes. People can judge me all they want since it does not bother me unless it someone I care about.

It's a work in progress to be a better person than I am but I also love my imperfection.

Yes, but only a few times and by posters that I noticed do it to a lot of people. I'm pretty private and guarded, but most have treated me very well.

If you're concerned about yesterday, you are human and hurting. I still remember hitting my son so hard in the face when he was eleven that it knocked him partway across the room. It had never happened before or since, all I could do was apologize, tell him I loved him, and go on. He's an adult now with no permanent scars. He remembers it, too, and likes to tease me "mom, you always let me by with too much. I think that I went into shock." I will regret it always, but he's ok.

Yep absolutely.

And I hope you're feeling better than you did the other day. Parenting is the toughest job around. Sure it's easy if your kids never had issues, but if/when they do, it's quite another story. I really don't think that people will get it unless they've gone through it!

I agree with Dutchity (even though she has crabs)!

I am hoping they are the kind that require Old Bay.

I feel that once you open yourself up to people, then you become more vulnerable...no matter what the situation. Just like in marriage. You open yourself up, become vulnerable, learn to trust, then you get crushed by the other person. This in turn could cause many trust issues going forward.
But, with that being said, I don't believe that you can truly heal, unless you are 100% honest with yourself. This means that on a support group, in order to get the full support that you need, you must open up and make yourself vulnerable.
Sometimes it just takes a while to open up. Sometimes you just have to talk about tacos as the filler, until you are ready...
Know what I'm saying?

Rman don't worry about what others think. It's what you think that counts in the end.

You're a great person and Father. But you should already know that.

yes but who cares

Preaching to the Crabcos brother.

Everyone has their own opinions, but until they have walked in your shoes they truely can't know why people make the choices they make. We make choices everyday, good and bad, with practice we hope we make more good choices than bad ones.

I could go for some crab tacos right about now...

Oh yes dear boy. Welcome to the world of DS. I went through a very rough time after I opened up my can of worms to the public. I even had someone dig up old posts and try to have others dislike me. But as TD says your true friends stay your friends. The rest you just choose to ignore. Big hugs to you..

Opinions can sound like judgements.

I try real hard to be understanding and give helpful opinions. If I ever come across as all-knowing Ms. Judge of All Righteousness..just call me on it.

Hard tortilla shell, smackled in Old Bay... some melted American cheese.... maybe a little lettuce.... some bacon...

And a giant glass of iced tea...